I knew I shouldn't post when I am as pressed for time as I have been and this proves it...
I looked at the word when I wrote it and thought something was wrong, but couldn't think it through before I had to be out the door. Thanks for figuring it out for me! INSIGHTFUL was the word I was looking for. ;)
My take: if you bring personal situations to a public forum, things like this are bound to happen, because not everyone knows the details, and everyone has the right (and propensity) to comment, whether they know the whole situation or not.
There is no need for the condescension because Carp didn't know Darcie & DA are siblings! Apart from that small gaffe, I think his comments were okay....provocative, but not terribly rude or out of line, especially considering DA's publicly presented and commonly known philosophies and beliefs.
Personally, I think its kind of silly to have an intimate conversation on a public forum, and then protect one another from commentary like those reading shouldn't have had an opinion. Take it to PM, or let it be public fodder. You can't have it both ways.
In my opinion, Darcie was persnickety in her first little comment to Rico, saying, "Exactly, Rico, you don't know...." (Or it seemed that way to me.) If we don't know...then fill us in? If its private, then keep it that way. Or put a warning at the beginning of the thread to "Read, but Don't Comment Unless You Know All the Details."
DA, you're blunt and rough, so you shouldn't get mad when its returned to you, and Carp didn't attack your sister...he challenged what you posted, therefore you weren't defending her in your posts. (Or, if you were, there was no need for it.)
And are you really going to stick with the idea that you expect folks to tread lightly around your family? Your sister can gain her own respect. It works better that way.
Silliness. :shifty
VERY WELL SAID... THIS COULD APPLY TO SEVERAL DISCUSSIONS.
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV