The Meaninglessness of "I'm Sorry." - Page 6

Nahum · #1 08-04-2008, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Pastor Poster

Have you ever had someone tell you "I'm sorry" that wasn't? Have you ever had someone say those two words, only to keep doing the very same horrible thing they said they were sorry for?

Sometimes "I'm sorry" just means "forgive me?"

It doesn't really mean that they feel bad for what they did as much as they feel bad they got caught doing wrong.

To me "I'm sorry" should be accompanied by some sort of action greater than just an apology.

The verbal apology should be matched by future acts of contrition.

I don't think any of us believe that repentance only involves words.

Another thing that bugs me is when people hurt other people really, really bad and then make up some line about how they were "just joking."

"Just joking" is cover for "I don't care that I hurt you, and didn't even for a minute consider the implications of my actions and words."

Is it too much to ask that when an apology is made, people should really mean it?

Otherwise just shut up and move on. Your words are meaningless.

Review time.

OP_Carl · #2 08-04-2008, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Pastor Poster

Another thing that bugs me is when people hurt other people really, really bad and then make up some line about how they were "just joking."

"Just joking" is cover for "I don't care that I hurt you, and didn't even for a minute consider the implications of my actions and words."

Is it too much to ask that when an apology is made, people should really mean it?

Otherwise just shut up and move on. Your words are meaningless.

All too much of our communication these days is meaningless.

Those cases where somebody is blatantly pushing the limits of decency, but then put their hand up in the air and claim that they didn't mean anything by it, and attempt to imply that the other person / people are being too sensitive, are in my book definitive of the term 'reprobate.' A person without conscience. They are just begging for somebody to get fed up enough to punch them in the mouth and then claim they "didn't mean anything by it."

EA · #3 10-21-2009, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Nahum

Have you ever had someone tell you "I'm sorry" that wasn't? Have you ever had someone say those two words, only to keep doing the very same horrible thing they said they were sorry for?

Sometimes "I'm sorry" just means "forgive me?"

It doesn't really mean that they feel bad for what they did as much as they feel bad they got caught doing wrong.

To me "I'm sorry" should be accompanied by some sort of action greater than just an apology.

The verbal apology should be matched by future acts of contrition.

I don't think any of us believe that repentance only involves words.

Another thing that bugs me is when people hurt other people really, really bad and then make up some line about how they were "just joking."

"Just joking" is cover for "I don't care that I hurt you, and didn't even for a minute consider the implications of my actions and words."

Is it too much to ask that when an apology is made, people should really mean it?

Otherwise just shut up and move on. Your words are meaningless.

What happens when this occurs in a marriage or parent/child relationship?

*AQuietPlace* · #4 10-21-2009, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Edward Anglin

What happens when this occurs in a marriage or parent/child relationship?

Words don't mean much. It's the accompanying action that counts. When 'I'm sorry' isn't accompanied by change, then pretty soon some action may need to be taken.