As you can tell Rhoni, I could care less what you think, I know what happens at proms.
Proms have changed quite a bit. There are lots of places and schools that offer 'chem free' partying with a LOT of adult supervision. My kids, should they opt to go to prom, will NOT be going anywhere without LOTS of adult supervision.
Then again, that's how I feel about anywhere they go, especially church functions!!
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As you can tell Steve P, Ultra conservative folk get all disjointed when you question their belief system. Principles is what we are asking not the worst that can happen if you don't do as I say...
just gets on my last nerve sometimes.
Blessings, Rhoni
I seldom find myself rushing to the defense of ultra conservatives, mainly because I do not feel they need my defense, but in this case, Rhoni, I must award you the Broad Brush award.
I know many ultra cons who are perfectly secure in their beliefs and do not get "all disjointed". By the same token, I know quite a few "disjointed" libs, as well.
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I have know kids that go to prom and come home afterwards. I have known kids that go to prom and don't come home (ala Eastmans example). I have know kids that go to prom and get pregnant and I know some that didn't. My wife was a virgin when we married and she had not really kissed anyone unitl me. She went to prom, was voted prom queen and was the most popular in school. If you all knew my wife that wouldn't shock ya she is cool. But you know what our kids need to know that we trust them. If you or we do our jobs as parents they should know what we believe and know what is right-and believe it themselves. I plan on letting my daughter attend, but when she becomes old enough we will judge by her character whether or not she will go. She may not want to go. But either way if my daughter makes a wrong choice I am there to pick her up and help her press on. If she makes a good choice then that makes me feel better.
Look it is crazy to think that if we keep our kids for the 'things of the world' that they will be ok. I know WAY more kids that grew up under the conservative parental structure and have left and went nuts than I do know people that were given freedom to go to these things and went nuts.
My parents were conservative enough to raise me to believe in certain things, but so conservative enough to not TRUST me and let me choose for myself. I apprectiate Bro. E's opinions but if he or anyone else thinks that we can shelter our kids and thus they are fine..think again.
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As I said earlier my son graduated last year and did not go to prom.
When I graduated there was no question about it, we did not go to prom. There were other church in town whose youth did not go also. Some of the Baptist churches disapproved as did one of the AOG, church of God and Nazarians, none of their youth went either.
I have never known of Pentecostals going to proms.
As I said earlier my son graduated last year and did not go to prom.
When I graduated there was no question about it, we did not go to prom. There were other church in town whose youth did not go also. Some of the Baptist churches disapproved as did one of the AOG, church of God and Nazarians, none of their youth went either.
I have never known of Pentecostals going to proms.
I didn't attend prom when I was in HS either.
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I seldom find myself rushing to the defense of ultra conservatives, mainly because I do not feel they need my defense, but in this case, Rhoni, I must award you the Broad Brush award.
I know many ultra cons who are perfectly secure in their beliefs and do not get "all disjointed". By the same token, I know quite a few "disjointed" libs, as well.
O.K. well I did broad-brush the post, but for real...you can only protect your children so far, and then they have to live in the world and make grown up decisions. To me it is better to give them a little latitude and guide/train them in how to handle situations, than to deny them access instead of teaching them. This fosters dependence, and an inability to cope with situations when they have no choice.
O.K. well I did broad-brush the post, but for real...you can only protect your children so far, and then they have to live in the world and make grown up decisions. To me it is better to give them a little latitude and guide/train them in how to handle situations, than to deny them access instead of teaching them. This fosters dependence, and an inability to cope with situations when they have no choice.
I think moderation in all things applies here!
I totally agree with this!
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My wife and I were highschool sweethearts. I loved our prom. I can still remember how it felt to hold her and dance, the sent of the perfume she was wearing (California), and how I knew then this was the girl I wanted to hold forever. We danced and had punch. Laughed with friends and posed for pictures. It was great.
Afterwards her parents had an "after prom party" where we hung out until all our friends went home. I lived in the ghetto and my mom didn't care where I was and her parents felt it safer for me to just stay there after everyone went home because it was so late. They let me sleep in their finished basement. I remember feeling like I was dreaming. I felt so safe, respected, welcomed, and cared for. Her parents took me in like I was part of the family.
My wife and I were highschool sweethearts. I loved our prom. I can still remember how it felt to hold her and dance, the sent of the perfume she was wearing (California), and how I knew then this was the girl I wanted to hold forever. We danced and had punch. Laughed with friends and posed for pictures. It was great.
Afterwards her parents had an "after prom party" where we hung out until all our friends went home. I lived in the ghetto and my mom didn't care where I was and her parents felt it safer for me to just stay there after everyone went home because it was so late. They let me sleep in their finished basement. I remember feeling like I was dreaming. I felt so safe respected, welcomed, and cared for. Her parents took me in like I was part of the family.
So, just out of curiousity, if you married your high school sweetheart, where did you gain all of your experience walking into clubs and kissing strange girls?
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