Have you ever met someone that you just cannot stand? A total personality conflict? There is a new couple who moved from another church and are attending our church now. My husband and I can't stand them? LOL! I can't stand this woman!
I feel terrible because I'm supposed to always care about people - look past the ugly and see why they are hurting or acting the way they do. It's just that I'm having a really hard time with this one. I don't want to gossip about details - just the subject of not liking a person's personality - everything about them! LOL!
I know I need to pray and have been - Lord, bless her, heal her heart..........but when I see her - my prayers seem to be out of the window.
Hoping at some point I can break through that and end up friends, but it's just not looking good.
So, advice or a sharing of similar experience would be nice. I really am trying, honestly........
LOL! YES! I Certainly know exactly what you are talking about.
As i read this, a certain person popped into my mind! I know exactly what that feels like.
intererstingly enought, I am preaching tonight on the subject of "Looking past the person"
How funny is that?
Well, preach to me then!!! When I am in the same room with her it's like nails on a chalkboard!!!! I need help! LOL
This is serious, I'm thinking - Okay, you will see her tonight - do not drink any caffeine after noon so you will make sure you are thinking clearly and are calm! Do not read anything stressful before church - no news! Do not elevate your blood pressure in any way! LOL!
What I find is that, generally, when I can't stand someone, either they remind me of a bad trait in myself, or they have a bad trait that I don't know how to deal with. I try to find what it is about them that is bothering me (besides, she is such a witch! ) and try to figure out what my shortcoming is. At the same time, I do not use my shortcoming (which may be small compared to theirs.....or not) to beat myself over the head and say I should like them more. It could be they are just a pretty rotton person. But, I can learn something from everybody, even if it is about what I could change about me. And then, I try to be nice.
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What I find is that, generally, when I can't stand someone, either they remind me of a bad trait in myself, or they have a bad trait that I don't know how to deal with. I try to find what it is about them that is bothering me (besides, she is such a witch! ) and try to figure out what my shortcoming is. At the same time, I do not use my shortcoming (which may be small compared to theirs.....or not) to beat myself over the head and say I should like them more. It could be they are just a pretty rotton person. But, I can learn something from everybody, even if it is about what I could change about me. And then, I try to be nice.
This is so true and something that I generally always practice - see if the thing you don't like in them is a trait of yours as well.
It would get into gossip if I lined out some things I don't like, so I'll read what everyone has to say and keep the details to myself.
Freak her out and give her a small gift - - maybe a candle you've made.
Prehaps, the way she acts toward you is because she doesn't understand you or feels threatened by you?
Given a gift might break the barrier.
Good idea, but I'm not there yet. I'd feel like a hypocrite. If I gave her a gift, I'd have to be sincerely sincere. That isn't happening this week. LOL! Pray for me!
I do agree with you, in that, I also believe she feels threatened by me. I think as time goes by and she sees that I am NOT competing with her, she will eventually calm down.
Good idea, but I'm not there yet. I'd feel like a hypocrite. If I gave her a gift, I'd have to be sincerely sincere. That isn't happening this week. LOL! Pray for me!
I do agree with you, in that, I also believe she feels threatened by me. I think as time goes by and she sees that I am NOT competing with her, she will eventually calm down.
I think that is the whole reason!
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I agree and I think through time we will work this out.
I've also observed people who have spent years in the medical industry are a bit more aggressive and a part of them seems to become a little unfeeling. That's just my observation. Perhaps others have seen a different side or have a different view.
I just joined the choir at my new church-- I used to be a member of it before a long time ago. But the brother I sat next to in practice-- I think I made him uncomfortable. SO I was uncomfortable and was paralyzed by that discomfort because all I really wanted was to make friends with the lady on my left and the dude on my right.
I felt so awkward, so out of place-- I think I get on this guy's nerves!
He and his family are newer to the church than I am.
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) and try to figure out what my shortcoming is. At the same time, I do not use my shortcoming (which may be small compared to theirs.....or not) to beat myself over the head and say I should like them more. It could be they are just a pretty rotton person. But, I can learn something from everybody, even if it is about what I could change about me. And then, I try to be nice. 
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