Marriage is give and take

[Trouvere]

I thought I would post this here in large enough print for my eyes to be able to read.lol..I posted it on the Should sex be taught at church thread but really its not about sex.Its about what makes marriage work.
I would be interested in some good ideas and opinions by those who are married and what it takes to make the long run.We have been married for twenty-one years next December.The following is a scenario I witnessed today.It grieved me so.

Speaking of relationships.I spoke today with a person that I have known for along time.In the context of conversation the wife turned to the husband
and voiced this,"You always try to make me look stupid in front of our friends."
We were talking about surfing as he is a professional surfer.She hates the outdoors altogether.They have a gulf between them an ocean wide.
I left the conversation so grieved.I can see the divorce court so clear because neither is willing to give.
You have to give.You may not like the outdoors or the beach but have to put up with a trip or two just to be together and make the other person happy.
He may hate the mall but if a trip or two makes her happy go for it.
Marriage is give and take.You cannot always have things your way.
The other person has a voice and feelings as well.
A relationship does not begin in the bedroom.

I am sure some of you ladies who have been married for awhile can attest to this.
Sinful things you don't have to agree to but there are somethings that are not a sin and the other person enjoys so for the sake of the marriage
join them.Its not going to kill you to give a little.