1) You can get the training from
https://ministrycentral.com. There are other requirements to get the license, e.g., a certain amount of hours of preaching.
2) You fill out an application form and submit it (in the case of an ind church, no idea how)
3) Then the district board gets together, evaluates your application, and interview you and your wife.
4) If you pass, you get the license.
5) You are required to pay a monthly fee to keep the license. You are also expected to vote in the district meetings.
I believe you get access to some benefits.
Regarding the women thing, it depends on your congregation. They don't force you to do anything in that area. They allow for different opinion on areas not in the Articles of Faith.