If the principle of modesty was taught as a lifestyle, and not as a set of rules set up by a man, or an organization, it is possible that some of these problems could have been avoided.
This is what I think about it. I got tired of the ambiguity of it all a long time ago. This is where I've come with it all so far. Go with the flow. Don't be a judge. Let people be. Your walk with God is between you and Him, and so it is with the people in your church. And what's wrong with French manicured nails anyway?