How to get over the Greatest Hurt

Rhoni · #1 09-05-2009, 07:35 PM

Some wounds are so deep that you can't even reach them. It is my understanding/observation that most issues that most human beings have are related to: abandonment, rejection, and self deprecation.

Where do they come from and where do they get put when you detach from them? Why do walls go up and bridges get burned?

Just some thoughts on my mind tonight. The image of God gets tarnished in some people's minds, hearts, & emotions. How does one change the lens that color their world gray or black?

Just some points to ponder for those who like to dig deep.

Blessings, Rhoni

missourimary · #2 09-07-2009, 12:03 AM

I'm not sure we ever detach from a past hurt, but we do have a choice to either learn from it and grow through it, turning it into a positive experience, or grow bitter and angry over it, making it a negative experience. And, even if we start out negatively, after time the experience can be used for growth-and vice versa.
Some hurts are so deep only God can reach them.

Another thing-I've heard people comfort someone saying 'time heals all wounds.' Does it? I don't think so. Time doesn't. God can. But don't expect him to always remove the scars. He is our healer, but oftentimes our scars remind us of lessons learned and victories won if we let them.

ILG · #3 09-07-2009, 08:20 AM

The greatest hurt of my life happened a number of years ago, which culminated in my husband and I leaving the United Pentecostal Church. We had fought a tremendous battle, were falsely accused repeatedly but continued to fight for those we knew were being abused. In the end, I questioned many times if it were worth it and I would not choose to do it again.

The Lord of the Rings is a tremendous story and when I was quite sick here a little while ago, I watched the whole thing. Sam and Frodo and the others fight a tremendous battle and they are a unique fellowship, one that cannot be understood except by those inside it. They share a unique bond.

In the end, Frodo leaves the shire, telling Sam "We set out to save the shire Sam, and we did.....but not for me".

Those words resonate in my heart. Frodo left with pain, yes, but with a peace and a smile that he knew he was going the right direction.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mApx-001wRY

Cindy · #4 09-07-2009, 08:47 AM

Rejoice in your scars, for that means that God has healed your wounds.

SeekingOne · #5 09-07-2009, 11:15 AM

I am finding some wounds take a loooong time to heal. I sometimes feel like the pain is getting greater with time instead of better. If it were as simple as forgiving those who inflict the hurt, the pain would end immediately.

If someone could take away the memories of the people I love and can't call or hug, then maybe the hurt would heal. If someone could take away the family members who keep stabbing us again and again, maybe the wounds would heal.

Sometimes I feel like Paul, I prayed several times for the thorn to be removed, but God keeps saying His Grace is sufficient. Some pain we won't understand ever on this earth. Death looks really good sometimes, but God has a call on our lives and we must continue on and fulfill His purpose.

simplyme · #6 09-07-2009, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Cindy

Rejoice in your scars, for that means that God has healed your wounds.

AWESOME, I've heard this before., long ago., thanx for that reminder.

As for the question voiced at the start:
How does one change the lens that color their world gray or black?

I would have to say perhaps TIME, funny how it can/does give one a different
perspective.

With time comes (sometimes) wisdom., sometimes new info becomes
available that somewhat explains WHY a certain person hurt someone
else, not that it exonerates that person, but as regards forgiving, it just
might help to understand a bit better.

Some pains will just never go away, though., it just all depends on the
details., only GOD is capable of removing the deepest stuff.

RevDWW · #7 09-07-2009, 11:21 AM

My momma used to say, "quick picking at the scab if you want it to heal"........

SeekingOne · #8 09-07-2009, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by RevDWW

My momma used to say, "quick picking at the scab if you want it to heal"........

If only you could get others to quit picking at the scab.

Cindy · #9 09-07-2009, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by SeekingOne

If only you could get others to quit picking at the scab.

Yep, and if you have to be around them often.

RevDWW · #10 09-07-2009, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by SeekingOne

If only you could get others to quit picking at the scab.

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Originally Posted by Cindy

Yep, and if you have to be around them often.

There comes a time when we have to become responsible for our selves. Not taking blame for hurts inflicted on us by others, but maturing to the point we know we are able to respond to the things that come into our lives.

I must decide if I turn the other cheek or strike back.

Ah, the terrible power of choice.......