Why are some x-UPCers so set on bashing the UPC???

[Malvaro]

• Why are some folks so set on heckling/bashing the very organization they willingly chose to walk away from?
• Why aren't they content knowing they never have to set foot in the doors of a UPC church again?
• Why do they keep beating the drum of the same arguments and complaints, months and yet sometimes years after they left?

Don't they have anything better to do with their time?

Just curious....

[Tina]

My family left the UPC when I was 13 yrs old.

I can't recall making a single anti upc post on any forum.

So it CAN be done.

[revrandy]

Folks that are hurt generally lash back....

Originally Posted by Malvaro

• Why are some folks so set on heckling/bashing the very organization they willingly chose to walk away from?
• Why aren't they content knowing they never have to set foot in the doors of a UPC church again?
• Why do they keep beating the drum of the same arguments and complaints, months and yet sometimes years after they left?

Don't they have anything better to do with their time?

Just curious....

They are lashing out in secret sorrow of having left the 'mothership'????

[Felicity]

Some are working through issues Mal. Very often the rhetoric tones down after a few years when they can look back and look at the issues a little more objectively.

I think it's good that people have the opportunity to express themselves. I mean there are lots of posters who can counter any bashing and offer a more balanced and pragmatic viewpoint.

That's why Jim started FCF in the first place. So the "issues" could be discussed without fear of censorship.

At the same time I realize that care needs to be taken and people need to watch their attitudes and spirits. We ALL do!

[Malvaro]

Originally Posted by revrandy

Folks that are hurt generally lash back....

ummmmm.... everyone gets hurt sometime, someplace.... isn't that a reality in life.... or do some actually believe that this couldn't happen in a church???

this statement isn't a cop-out (sp?) just an observation....

[Malvaro]

Originally Posted by Annie

They are lashing out in secret sorrow of having left the 'mothership'????

why would i be sorrowful about being "set free" like I've heard many X'ers say.... shouldn't they be happier with their new-found liberties??? i would think that it would be more of a burden constantly looking back and re-opening those old "wounds" and "memories" ....

if they truly left for the right reasons, let it go and move on with your life.... if they left for the wrong reasons, repent and get right with God....

whats so hard about that??

[revrandy]

Originally Posted by Malvaro

ummmmm.... everyone gets hurt sometime, someplace.... isn't that a reality in life.... or do some actually believe that this couldn't happen in a church???

this statement isn't a cop-out (sp?) just an observation....

The Forum is a unknown place where they can make their feelings known tho and not get a backlash...

[J-Roc]

Originally Posted by Felicity

Some are working through issues Mal. Very often the rhetoric tones down after a few years when they can look back and look at the issues a little more objectively.

I think it's good that people have the opportunity to express themselves. I mean there are lots of posters who can counter any bashing and offer a more balanced and pragmatic viewpoint.

That's why Jim started FCF in the first place. So the "issues" could be discussed without fear of censorship.

At the same time I realize that care needs to be taken and people need to watch their attitudes and spirits. We ALL do!

I vote you the wisest person on AFF!

[Malvaro]

on a side note, I will say that I can think of several folks who have left the UPC organization and yet still hold fast to the same doctrine and truths.... I completely respect their decision and know that God can still bless them....