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Originally Posted by Barb
There are going to be folks all the time who don't understand, so what?
Opinions are like noses...we all have one and some are uglier than others, but I refuse to let the ugliness of someone's attitude define who I am or keep me in a constant state of I don't know what.
Your post reminds me of a story my former pastor used to love to tell...
When he was growing up, there was a Mother in the church who constantly told folks with a sickness or problem, "Child, just tell the devil he's a liar!"
She said this for years, until one day, Mother got sick.
One of the young'uns in the church said, "Mother, just tell the devil he's a liar!"
And Mother replied, "Yes, but honey, he ain't lying this time!"
That's the way many do...they simply can't see a sorrowful day until they are in a sorrowful state.
But bemoaning their lack of comprehension doesn't make life sweeter...
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IMO, none of this proves that the problems should just be ignored, or those who want to talk about it should be hushed and shooed away. If nobody is allowed to get things like this out in the open, then everyone that it happens to will think they're alone. That there's something wrong with them. That the abusers are right!
I guarantee you there are lurkers on this very thread, and many others, who may never post, but who draw some strength and encouragement from finding out that they are not alone. That others have been through what they have been through. That maybe they're
not wrong!
The very nature of the kind of abuse we are talking about is such that the victims very often feel that they have no option other than to "take it". By definition, it blames the victim. Pounds it home! This takes a toll. Sometimes the message "takes", and very well.