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Originally Posted by Barb
No, no, no! Perhaps I am not making myself plain...
I never said anyone should keep silent. Today I have written a 13 page letter to not only be sent TO the elder involved in our family deal, but also TO the outside board members.
So no, I don't believe in holding it in.
My posts were in reference to ILG not liking that PO disagreed with her analogy, thinking that disagreement denotes unconcern.
Then I responded to you...others may not want to know about your pain, and my response to that...
Rain on 'em! Why bemoan their inability to get it? So my point...get over it. Not everyone is going to agree with us.
Yes, I understand her her pain and have for years.
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I still think it is right not only to share experiences and expose these things, but also to "bemoan" the lack of understanding and empathy in some people -- that itself is part of the problem. In fact, it's a crucial part of the problem, since many of those same people are abusers themselves, and they would like nothing more than to continue spewing their poison, without challenge.
Their poison works toward the goal of keeping the victims down, keep them wondering if the problem is in them, if they really are faulty somehow -- since they can't just "get over it", and maybe they really don't love God as much as they think they do, maybe they are being selfish. Yep, there is a reason for that poison, and it will keep working if it isn't exposed for what it is.