An Old "Friend" Seeking to Line Me Up

[Evang.Benincasa]

Originally Posted by n david

I challenge you to find anything in His Word which condones and justifies the OP. It's simply not there.

Oh like Bivocational ministry?

[n david]

And yes, the college buddy is a violated party due to DB's accusations against him.

[Originalist]

Originally Posted by n david

And yes, the college buddy is a violated party due to DB's accusations against him.

Again. A false narrative. DB did not accuse him.

Sharing what the college buddy told the mutual friend is not an accusation.

DB headed off a bad situation. The college buddy never got to carry out his plan.

Sure he could have confronted him about what he told the mutual friend, but what good would that have done except to possibly alienate the other friend?

[n david]

Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;

Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.

Matthew 5:23-25 KJV

That's the higher way. DB should have talked with his college buddy about the accusations...not AFF.

[n david]

Originally Posted by n david

Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;

Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.

Matthew 5:23-25 KJV

That's the higher way. DB should have talked with his college buddy about the accusations...not AFF.

Bump

This is the only higher way. The only solution of which God approves.

[n david]

Originally Posted by Originalist

Again. A false narrative. DB did not accuse him.

He didn't accuse him? Did you read the OP? Most of it is an unfounded, unproven accusation against his college buddy.

Originally Posted by Originalist

Sharing what the college buddy told the mutual friend is not an accusation.

He did more than relate what his long time friend told him:

So, my AFF friends, if you are on the receiving end of being judged and accused of backsliding because you have progressed from your roots and background, kill em with kindness. If you are on the other end accusing, judging, deciding who is saved and who isn't---if you are truly in the right and what you believe is truth---love those back into the fold if you really want to influence them to "come home". Lining someone up---especially after years of little to no contact, with no investment in a relationship with them probably won't be readily received.

Originally Posted by Originalist

DB headed off a bad situation. The college buddy never got to carry out his plan.

LOL what plan? You and DB are assuming there was some nefarious plan to confront DB based on someone's gossip and unsupported by the actions and attitude of this man as written by DB.

He hugged him, cried and said he loved him.

Doesn't sound like a man who had ill intent.

Originally Posted by Originalist

Sure he could have confronted him about what he told the mutual friend, but what good would that have done except to possibly alienate the other friend?

So the long time friend told him the gossip but didn't want him to mention it? My words and assumption...I know DB didn't say that.

DB wrote the post patting himself on the back for such a good thing he did and how he did the higher thing. Unfortunately, the post itself was a glaring contradiction against the true higher way as stated in the Bible.

[Jermyn Davidson]

If I were a betting man...

DB's close friend probably didn't say and do what he did to be accusatory or a tale-bearer or a gossip. He was being loyal. Friends do look out for each other.

If I were DB's close friend in this situation, I would have said and done the same thing.

Why would you let your friend walk blindly into a potentially bad situation?

What kind of friend would do that?

I am glad DB's 30 years late friend decided to rather reconnect the relationship and maybe grow the friendship than to try to "line him up".

It may have been his plan, but he could have WISELY changed his mind. There are times, when people come up with bad ideas and then change their minds before they actually carry out their bad ideas.

There really isn't a bad guy in this story. A little misplaced zeal wisely not acted on does not make the 30 years late guy a bad person.

A loyal friend being loyal is not a sign of being a bad person.

Starting a thread about the whole interaction does not make DB wrong either. DB keeps everything anonymous. Where is the harm in this?

Maybe there is something to this whole interaction that all of us can learn from.

[Jermyn Davidson]

There isn't anyone in this situation that doesn't deserve the benefit of doubt.

[deacon blues]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

If I were a betting man...

DB's close friend probably didn't say and do what he did to be accusatory or a tale-bearer or a gossip. He was being loyal. Friends do look out for each other.

If I were DB's close friend in this situation, I would have said and done the same thing.

Why would you let your friend walk blindly into a potentially bad situation?

What kind of friend would do that?

I am glad DB's 30 years late friend decided to rather reconnect the relationship and maybe grow the friendship than to try to "line him up".

It may have been his plan, but he could have WISELY changed his mind. There are times, when people come up with bad ideas and then change their minds before they actually carry out their bad ideas.

There really isn't a bad guy in this story. A little misplaced zeal wisely not acted on does not make the 30 years late guy a bad person.

A loyal friend being loyal is not a sign of being a bad person.

Starting a thread about the whole interaction does not make DB wrong either. DB keeps everything anonymous. Where is the harm in this?

Maybe there is something to this whole interaction that all of us can learn from.

JD---we need to get together. I have some things I want to say to you.

[Originalist]

Originally Posted by n david

He didn't accuse him? Did you read the OP? Most of it is an unfounded, unproven accusation against his college buddy.


He did more than relate what his long time friend told him:




LOL what plan? You and DB are assuming there was some nefarious plan to confront DB based on someone's gossip and unsupported by the actions and attitude of this man as written by DB.

He hugged him, cried and said he loved him.

Doesn't sound like a man who had ill intent.


So the long time friend told him the gossip but didn't want him to mention it? My words and assumption...I know DB didn't say that.

DB wrote the post patting himself on the back for such a good thing he did and how he did the higher thing. Unfortunately, the post itself was a glaring contradiction against the true higher way as stated in the Bible.

Ok. So if the cops receive a letter from a terrorist that names the date and time he is coming to your house to kill you, they had better not tell you because that would be hearsay and gossip.