Going back to the UPC - Page 10

GodsBabyGirl · #91 03-24-2008, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

My wife has no problems with my standards. She is fine with it. She seemed shocked when I told her I would return with her. She asked if that is what I want and I told her I want a healthy and happy family. Somethings are more important than egos or whatever. I did feel weird at first. I felt God lead me to this other church and that going back to the UPC church was going against him, but the truth is that #1 come family #2 comes ministry so I took the high road and if God curses me cause I want to have a great family life them I guess He will, but I am confident that He is happy with me making this choice for my family.

Your first ministry is your family....God, Family, Church....

Jack Shephard · #92 03-24-2008, 03:10 PM

Now I still fall into the Mod/Lib group, but not for sake of being different. It is who I am. My father-in-law the other day called me a 'Left winger' and like T.F. Tenney says right-wing, left-wing you gotta have both to fly. He thought that was crafty. It is true though. I have never seen a plane flying too long with one wing or a bird either. Gotta have balance in all things, faith and family especially.

Pragmatist · #93 03-24-2008, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

See that is the thing, "if." There are alot of 'ifs' in LIFE-so says Met Life, which is true. One thing I know about God and His word is family comes first. So 'if' I missed God by leaving then I am wrong. 'If' I was to go there for a time of refreshing and return then I am right. His ways we do not understand. All I know is that I have a comforting feeling about this. Not much else I can say exactly.

I think that God does lead us to churches "for a time" in some instances. Loyalty is a good thing, but it is not the most important thing.

mfblume · #94 03-24-2008, 03:13 PM

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This will keep the consitancy in raising our child/children.

Sounds like the sort of situation where a couple stays together only for the sake of the kids, while the marriage itself is not working. Why go to a church simply to satisfy people? IT's not right, I think. JMHO

GodsBabyGirl · #95 03-24-2008, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

See that is the thing, "if." There are alot of 'ifs' in LIFE-so says Met Life, which is true. One thing I know about God and His word is family comes first. So 'if' I missed God by leaving then I am wrong. 'If' I was to go there for a time of refreshing and return then I am right. His ways we do not understand. All I know is that I have a comforting feeling about this. Not much else I can say exactly.

With the leading of the Lord comes peace....

Jack Shephard · #96 03-24-2008, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Rico

Have you considered splitting the difference and attending both churches for awhile? You know, you go to her church one Sunday and she comes to yours another Sunday. I don't recommend that on a permanent basis, but maybe it would give the Lord a chance to deal with her the way He's dealt with you about making the switch. BTW, I really feel for you. I can see that you have been in a tough spot.

Well it is hard to build a solid home with foundations in different places or plant a tree but first seperating it roots. I was doing this for a while hitting the early a.m. service at my former church and then going to the UPC church for their a.m. service. I know from talks and experience with my wife that her mind was made up along time ago, but did not know how to tell me. Which is fine by the way. I honestly think I had to have a breather from the UPC church. Now I feel it is time to return.

GodsBabyGirl · #97 03-24-2008, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mfblume

Sounds like the sort of situation where a couple stays together only for the sake of the kids, while the marriage itself is not working. Why go to a church simply to satisfy people? IT's not right, I think. JMHO

It is my understanding that wifey wants to stay at the church because that is where she is most comfortable.

I have been there and done that as far as going to different churches than my kids and now ex husband. It doesnt work.

Like JT said, if he is wrong, then God will show him, he'll repent and turn around.

As long as you guys are together. You can't go wrong there, Bro.!

SavedLou · #98 03-24-2008, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

Now I still fall into the Mod/Lib group, but not for sake of being different. It is who I am. My father-in-law the other day called me a 'Left winger' and like T.F. Tenney says right-wing, left-wing you gotta have both to fly. He thought that was crafty. It is true though. I have never seen a plane flying too long with one wing or a bird either. Gotta have balance in all things, faith and family especially.

so true! i lovvve bro tenney and his sayings. balance in ALL things. and for the record jt, my hubby wears shorts and we both go to movies and haven't been struck by lightening once!

Jack Shephard · #99 03-24-2008, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by mfblume

Sounds like the sort of situation where a couple stays together only for the sake of the kids, while the marriage itself is not working. Why go to a church simply to satisfy people? IT's not right, I think. JMHO

This is something I am willing to do, not being forced. We had made a comfortable choice on how to raise our kids and I think this is the best way until they are able to choose for themselves. This is in no way like a marriage staying together for the children while the marriage is not working. Us going to seperate churches is working well. I just want to be a good leader and a better father. At time I was putting my own wants over the family, honestly. That is not right. This is better for us and if it does not work out then we will know a change is to be made.

Rico · #**100** 03-24-2008, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

Well it is hard to build a solid home with foundations in different places or plant a tree but first seperating it roots. I was doing this for a while hitting the early a.m. service at my former church and then going to the UPC church for their a.m. service. I know from talks and experience with my wife that her mind was made up along time ago, but did not know how to tell me. Which is fine by the way. I honestly think I had to have a breather from the UPC church. Now I feel it is time to return.

Well, one thing is certain. Whether or not you are doing the right thing is something that only you and God can determine. I appreciate you being willing to be open about it on this forum and hope that we are somehow helping you. I know this has to have been a tough time for you.