Remember last summer when I told you all that we were taking our oldest son, Justin, to meet his birthmother for the first time? The meeting went well. Answered alot of questions for Justin. And it was very evident that getting to see him was a huge load off of his birthmother's shoulders also.
Well, today we got a phone call from his biological grandma. His birthmother died today. She seems to have committed suicide.
We have not called Justin with the news yet. He is at college, 5 hours away from here. I don't know if he will feel the need to come back for her funeral or not. If he wants to, we will certainly be supportive of him. If he chooses not to, we will understand that as well.
I know this is going to be alot for him to sort out in his own mind. And I hate that he is this far away so we cannot be there to help him talk thru it. How does he handle this? What does he say to his biological siblings that were still with her? How do he come to grips in his mind and heart with the fact that she took her own life? There's just so much involved.
I am asking all of you to please pray for:
1) Justin. I don't know what to ask for. Just pray.
2) Pray for his biological family as they grieve.
3) Pray for us as we try to be a help to Justin.
Thank you all. I don't know what I'd do without you. Love you! Every one of you!!
Praying here, Margie..........very sad news.
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Margie, I'm sorry to read this. I will be praying for your son, for God to strengthen him, and that hopefully meeting her and getting some closure before it was too late will be a great help to him.
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Margie I remember when your Son met his BirthMother and am very sorry to hear this.
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Originally Posted by Margies3
Remember last summer when I told you all that we were taking our oldest son, Justin, to meet his birthmother for the first time? The meeting went well. Answered alot of questions for Justin. And it was very evident that getting to see him was a huge load off of his birthmother's shoulders also.
Well, today we got a phone call from his biological grandma. His birthmother died today. She seems to have committed suicide.
We have not called Justin with the news yet. He is at college, 5 hours away from here. I don't know if he will feel the need to come back for her funeral or not. If he wants to, we will certainly be supportive of him. If he chooses not to, we will understand that as well.
I know this is going to be alot for him to sort out in his own mind. And I hate that he is this far away so we cannot be there to help him talk thru it. How does he handle this? What does he say to his biological siblings that were still with her? How do he come to grips in his mind and heart with the fact that she took her own life? There's just so much involved.
I am asking all of you to please pray for:
1) Justin. I don't know what to ask for. Just pray.
2) Pray for his biological family as they grieve.
3) Pray for us as we try to be a help to Justin.
Thank you all. I don't know what I'd do without you. Love you! Every one of you!!
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I finally reached Justin this afternoon to let him know about Dana dying. He was saddened, of course, but handled it well. We told him that whether he decided to come home for the funeral or whether he decided he needed to stay at school, either way we will support him fully. He is waiting until he knows more about what the final plans will be before he makes his decision.
We talked about the fact that it was good that he got to meet her back in June. He is so, so glad that that happened. And we talked about the fact that Dana was very definate about the fact that she does not want him to have contact with Cassie, his biological sister, right now because her life is so messed up. I reminded him that Cassie will absolutely be at the funeral. So if he wants to go to the funeral, he will need to prepare himself for meeting her. And there is the possibility that his biological father COULD be there, altho I have a feeling he might still be in prison. But if he is, that is a whole new can of worms. So there is alot to think about for him.
Keep praying, friends. I know that God is surrounding Justin with His presence. And I know that all things work together for good to those who love the Lord - which Justin does. So somehow I believe God will use this to form Justin into the person HE wants him to be.
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I know exactly how Justin feels. At the age of 58, I found my birthmother. I had one and 1/2 years with her until she died last October. You are thankful to know what she was able to tell me. She also told me who the birthfather was which no one else knew. You got a feel for her personality which is something you can only do by association. I am now developing a relationship with 2 of my half sisters. Still, the emotions go up and down and sometimes are difficult to deal with. As for meeting his sister, just tell him to go easy and let her adapt to the new person in her life. I let my sisters move at their own speed, 2 have accepted me, 2 did not. I understand either way. Tell him to be happy the mystery is mostly over and deal with the new information. My wife is big on family tree research and now I can work on mine!!
Just read this- Margie- I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy for Justin. But he is so lucky to have you and Walt to support him through this - I am praying for your family and for the family of his birthmom.
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