Going back to the UPC - Page 4

Rico · #1 03-24-2008, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

I think some men have the idea that the only way to lead your home is to take the "it's my way or the highway" chest banging caveman approach.

Sometimes the most affective form of leadership is being able to compromise when the situation calls for it. And if he is willing to compromise for the sake of harmony in his home, and it doesn't require him to break principles within himself to do so, well, in my opinion, he is a mighty BIG man!

What if the situation were reversed, and he wanted to go to the standards church and she wanted to stay with the non standards crowd?

dizzyde · #2 03-24-2008, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Rico

What if the situation were reversed, and he wanted to go to the standards church and she wanted to stay with the non standards crowd?

All of my stated positions in this thread have nothing to do with standards or organization. They stand in whatever position you are coming from.

Hoovie · #3 03-24-2008, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rico

Sister, I couldn't disagree with you more if I tried. Non standard keepers rarely, if ever, attack others who keep dress standards. I wish the opposite were true. I have seen way more attacking of non standard keepers by standard keepers.

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Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

Of course this is probably the truth.

I am just not sure about this... I have experienced a bit of both groups.

It really depends a whole lot on what you mean by "attacking" and perhaps even more the type of people you choose to associate with. I have heard and seen the liberals rant about "holier than thou" conservative dress of the "Pharisees", with intention of implicating anyone that dresses conservatively.

SDG · #4 03-24-2008, 03:22 PM

No, I don't think it's undermining his authority but he might think it is ...

SDG · #5 03-24-2008, 03:46 PM

Mutual submission is also biblical ... in this case ... I see JT denying himself for the sake of keeping the peace.

RandyWayne · #6 03-24-2008, 03:46 PM

I actually prefer my wife with longer hair, without even addressing the whole "cut" versus "uncut" junk. But she likes it short because it is "so much easier to take care of!".
I will not MAKE her wear her hair in particular way -for one, because I feel it is no where NEAR salvational in nature.
I think she would go to a UPC church if I decided to go when we arrive in AZ, but I do not believe for an instant that she would start looking like a stereotypical UPC gal.

SDG · #7 03-24-2008, 03:48 PM

Our Western view of a family unit is very different from how extended family was honored and perceived in Biblical times and places.

mfblume · #8 03-24-2008, 04:13 PM

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This will keep the consitancy in raising our child/children.

Sounds like the sort of situation where a couple stays together only for the sake of the kids, while the marriage itself is not working. Why go to a church simply to satisfy people? IT's not right, I think. JMHO

GodsBabyGirl · #9 03-24-2008, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mfblume

Sounds like the sort of situation where a couple stays together only for the sake of the kids, while the marriage itself is not working. Why go to a church simply to satisfy people? IT's not right, I think. JMHO

It is my understanding that wifey wants to stay at the church because that is where she is most comfortable.

I have been there and done that as far as going to different churches than my kids and now ex husband. It doesnt work.

Like JT said, if he is wrong, then God will show him, he'll repent and turn around.

As long as you guys are together. You can't go wrong there, Bro.!

Jack Shephard · #10 03-24-2008, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by mfblume

Sounds like the sort of situation where a couple stays together only for the sake of the kids, while the marriage itself is not working. Why go to a church simply to satisfy people? IT's not right, I think. JMHO

This is something I am willing to do, not being forced. We had made a comfortable choice on how to raise our kids and I think this is the best way until they are able to choose for themselves. This is in no way like a marriage staying together for the children while the marriage is not working. Us going to seperate churches is working well. I just want to be a good leader and a better father. At time I was putting my own wants over the family, honestly. That is not right. This is better for us and if it does not work out then we will know a change is to be made.