An Old "Friend" Seeking to Line Me Up

[deacon blues]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

If I were a betting man...

DB's close friend probably didn't say and do what he did to be accusatory or a tale-bearer or a gossip. He was being loyal. Friends do look out for each other.

If I were DB's close friend in this situation, I would have said and done the same thing.

Why would you let your friend walk blindly into a potentially bad situation?

What kind of friend would do that?

I am glad DB's 30 years late friend decided to rather reconnect the relationship and maybe grow the friendship than to try to "line him up".

It may have been his plan, but he could have WISELY changed his mind. There are times, when people come up with bad ideas and then change their minds before they actually carry out their bad ideas.

There really isn't a bad guy in this story. A little misplaced zeal wisely not acted on does not make the 30 years late guy a bad person.

A loyal friend being loyal is not a sign of being a bad person.

Starting a thread about the whole interaction does not make DB wrong either. DB keeps everything anonymous. Where is the harm in this?

Maybe there is something to this whole interaction that all of us can learn from.

JD---we need to get together. I have some things I want to say to you.

[Originalist]

Originally Posted by deacon blues

When I need legal representation may I call on you?

Certainly.

[Originalist]

Originally Posted by n david

He didn't accuse him? Did you read the OP? Most of it is an unfounded, unproven accusation against his college buddy.


He did more than relate what his long time friend told him:




LOL what plan? You and DB are assuming there was some nefarious plan to confront DB based on someone's gossip and unsupported by the actions and attitude of this man as written by DB.

He hugged him, cried and said he loved him.

Doesn't sound like a man who had ill intent.


So the long time friend told him the gossip but didn't want him to mention it? My words and assumption...I know DB didn't say that.

DB wrote the post patting himself on the back for such a good thing he did and how he did the higher thing. Unfortunately, the post itself was a glaring contradiction against the true higher way as stated in the Bible.

Ok. So if the cops receive a letter from a terrorist that names the date and time he is coming to your house to kill you, they had better not tell you because that would be hearsay and gossip.

[n david]

Originally Posted by Originalist

Ok. So if the cops receive a letter from a terrorist that names the date and time he is coming to your house to kill you, they had better not tell you because that would be hearsay and gossip.

Oh good grief.

Your overblown what ifs are ridiculous.

Comparing DB's issue to murder and terror...

[Esaias]

Originally Posted by deacon blues

I should have. But I had 15 minutes. My daughter was more important.

You had no way to contact him afterwards?

Maybe he'll come on to AFF and get a chance to tell you what was up. Surely that's better than a face to face talk...

[deacon blues]

Originally Posted by Esaias

You had no way to contact him afterwards?

Maybe he'll come on to AFF and get a chance to tell you what was up. Surely that's better than a face to face talk...

I told him he was welcome to call me if he had more to say. He said he would. Still waiting on that call.

[good samaritan]

My question is why did the rebuker feel comfortable to tell the good friend he was going to set things straight? Sounds like this good friend is talking from both sides.

Proverbs 9:8 Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee:
rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.

I try to listen to rebuke. Many times others see us from an unbiased perspective. At least a person should weigh things in the balance before coming to conclusions. The particulars would be important to know before saying anyone is right or wrong.

[Jermyn Davidson]

Why can't we just look for the best in people?

[jediwill83]

I think that too many times those that feel they are in "the right" feel they can use whatever methods they want and the ones that are having the methods used on them are obligated to swallow it hook line and sinker without comment other than humble acceptance and agreement. Honestly I dont respond well to being ambushed in ANY aspect of my life.

Bro I'm glad you got a heads up and was able to prepare. Who knows...maybe your attitude and demeanor will convict him and plant a seed. I used to judge and condemn those that I felt were not somehow measuring up. I held wrong attitudes in my heart against good people that I felt were wrong and out of line because they held views that I didnt. I'm thankful that is behind me. I no longer sit back with a self righteous and smug attitude judging others. I DO look for the best in people...I try and connect with people on what we agree on and not have discord over what we dont.

[kclee4jc]

Originally Posted by deacon blues

OMGosh! Lol!

The guy had "so much I want to say to you"---he told my best friend everything he planned to say. But I had to leave, I had 15 minutes to give him. He had no time to unload on me. He held back because of a lack of time and because my best friend rebuked him and told him to not dare say any of the things he was planning to say to me. MY TRUE FRIEND told him to do nothing but love me. But his prayers at the church said enough that my saints could tell he had an ulterior motive. Face it, not everyone who claims to be Apostolic represents the movement well, nor do they know how to deal with people who are an enigma to them.

As far as what you posted above---you are clueless about my situation.

^im confused. I thought you said you met at a restaurant and that is where he prayed for you?