I don´t have a lot of time today but I think we should be balanced. Jesus taught us about balance. He rebukes those He loves...but He doesn´t leave them for dead...or half dead...lol..
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I don´t have a lot of time today but I think we should be balanced. Jesus taught us about balance. He rebukes those He loves...but He doesn´t leave them for dead...or half dead...lol..
Indeed...
I haven't spanked my children in a while. Of course they are good kids and don't find themselves in a position where they need one and they are all getting older now.
But... we do talk to them a lot about stuff. I am sure I am opening up myself for the rebuke of some on this forum but...
The last few times we found ourselves in a situation that would call for a spanking we began as we always do... that is... we began by discussing what was done... why we do not do that... where in the Bible it speaks to this action... and how those scriptures should affect our actions if we are Christians.
During the course of the discussion/Bible Study that precedes any further punishment there was a true sense of repentance in the room. I (calmly and systematically... not with anger or loud communication) demonstrated with scripture why this is against the nature and spirit of our God and my child broke down in repentance.
To me... there is no spanking that will fix what a true spirit of repentance will fix.
Now... some of you may call me gullible but I am not. My kids ALWAYS cry when they are about to get a spanking... but I have found that these sessions where we discuss and point out the reason why we don't do these things and the scriptures that show us God's nature coupled with the fact that our goal as Christians is to emulate that nature will, often, bring about a spirit of repentance in their own spirit.
I have not seen a repeat offense of any of these issues which I have dealt with in this fashion
Thank you!!! We agree. On the other thread, it sounded like leaving bruises and stripes was being heartily endorsed as appropriate discipline.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I haven't spanked my children in a while. Of course they are good kids and don't find themselves in a position where they need one and they are all getting older now.
But... we do talk to them a lot about stuff. I am sure I am opening up myself for the rebuke of some on this forum but...
The last few times we found ourselves in a situation that would call for a spanking we began as we always do... that is... we began by discussing what was done... why we do not do that... where in the Bible it speaks to this action... and how those scriptures should affect our actions if we are Christians.
During the course of the discussion/Bible Study that precedes any further punishment there was a true sense of repentance in the room. I (calmly and systematically... not with anger or loud communication) demonstrated with scripture why this is against the nature and spirit of our God and my child broke down in repentance.
To me... there is no spanking that will fix what a true spirit of repentance will fix.
Now... some of you may call me gullible but I am not. My kids ALWAYS cry when they are about to get a spanking... but I have found that these sessions where we discuss and point out the reason why we don't do these things and the scriptures that show us God's nature coupled with the fact that our goal as Christians is to emulate that nature will, often, bring about a spirit of repentance in their own spirit.
I have not seen a repeat offense of any of these issues which I have dealt with in this fashion
Good post.
Our kids also get more leniency when they are truthful the first time they are asked about something. Especially if they are obviously sorry about it. Now, that doesn't mean there aren't any consequences at all--if they've hurt someone else, they have to make it right. But if discipline is about bringing about repentance and a change in behavior, then there are many ways to get there other than, and often better than, spanking.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
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