Titus2woman
 

Has anyone heard from her since her mom passed away? I am worried, but still praying for her peace.

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Awww love you T2W, sorry for your loss.

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I have. She is doing okay, but has a lot on her plate right now. Continue keeping her in your prayers!

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It has been like 3 days, i was wondering myself. Was not aware her mom had passed.

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I miss T2W

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So sorry to hear of her mom's passing. :(
Praying for her and her family.

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Awww... you guys are beyond sweet! :)

Getting everything sorted after mom's passing was a big deal. Her desire to not have services of any kind has kind of left a big void in my family. I am not sure of her reasons and I am trying to respect her wishes but I really believe that funerals are much more for the living than the dead and some how we got cheated or our opportunity to grieve. Which makes me sound like a fussy baby... So when her ashes come back I think we may just have a service against her wishes... I mean what can she really do to us, right? (OK, maybe death humor is not for everyone ;))

I missed you guys too :)

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if she doesn't want a funeral, how about a non alcoholic wake/memorial dinner

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T2W, I think she would understand if she were aware of it. I know you love and miss her. Praying for God to comfort you.

Perhaps she was just thinking of not burdening family and friends with the high costs of funerals.
I think about myself sometimes...do I want my family to spend $6000-$10,000 to put me away? I would rather they use that money to take care of their own needs because I would be in a much better place.

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Oh she will come back and haunt you!

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No she left my brother here for that!

The lack of a funeral did save a bunch of money (for me). Mom believed in spending what she had while she was living. Everybody has to do it their own way I guess.

Because we have 33 acres we can be buried on our own land in Texas. My son Joe has already started on the family pine boxes. Our family funeral plans include a few dear friends who will wash the body and dress it. A one day viewing at home in the pine box with what ever precious things we choose and then after it is closed everyone will sign it with notes of love and into the ground it will go. Since we don't have hard freezes here that plan works year round.

For anyone in an accident or requiring an autopsy that can not be viewed without reconstructive work requiring a mortician we will simply ask the medical examiners office to put the remains in a bag and put the bag in the box and have the same service without the viewing. For anyone damaged beyond being able to do that we will cremate and then put the ashes in a smaller box and do the same thing. Me, hubby and all the children and their wives have all agreed that this is the best way to handle things since we are not wealthy and funerals here are about $15K and up.

Don's family always does the traditional funeral and then everybody complains about how much was spent when it's over.

Mom wanted to donate her body to medical science and did to the University of Texas Medical School. Unfortunately she died too far away for them to pick her body up. In many ways I am relieved. Although intellectually I understand the need for cadavers I did not like the idea of my mother as one.

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That is an interesting idea. What is your plan for markers? Is this going to be a family cemetery or is anyone allowed to join :D?

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Traditional granite. I don't think we will probably take in paid strangers... but if we were to have a friend without the ability to buy a plot I am sure we would gift a space.

It will not be an official cemetery. The first one in was my horse when he passed suddenly. We also have three family dogs out there. I imagine most folks would not want to be planted next to Muttly but it suites me fine. :)

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we only have a acre of land, but we have a dog cemetry on it, and I have my son's ashes in an urn in one of my china cabinets. Have not really figured out how we are all going to stay together yet. I may just collect urns and then the last person alive gets to either bury us all together somewhere or dump the ashes in the ocean or, I don't know yet.

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Good to see you again, T2W. Sorry about your mom. :friend

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When I go, I want an open casket, with me in sandals, shorts, a Hawaiian shirt, and sunglasses. With a maitai. :)

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They won't even know your dead!


http://www.cuttinclasskidz.com/wp-co...t_Bernie_s.jpg

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:thumbsup

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What is the movie this made me think of???
Weekend at Bernies???

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Yep. See Randy's post. :)

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Your family burial plan is really a blessing T2W - what a great way to keep all your family members together even in death, and to have a plan before that time comes too... death is so hard to deal with, especially trying to make all those decisions.

Mourning is for those who are left, and a time of grieving is so necessary for those still alive, and dealing with the loss of a loved one. I'm sure your mother wouldn't mind a memorial service... she was probably thinking of the $$$ and wouldn't mind a bit that you had a service in her honor to grieve and remember her by.

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Hey, if I ended up there, it could be truly said that I ended up going to the dogs! :D (Hope that was appropriate humor considering the topic)



I do agree that I think this is a good thing that you are doing. The question will be if the government will allow it (they seem to have issues with bodies buried on private property). However this being Texas, I really do not see any problems occurring from this.

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Your humor is not only appropriate Jay... It's FUNNY! :D



Yeah... Texas is pretty home funeral and burial friendly as long as one is in an unrestricted area of the county.

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I hope things are going as well as can be expected for you, my friend. You and your family are in my prayers.

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You ok T2W? I been worried about you. I kept you in my prayers.

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Might get your toes pulled at night...