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revrandy 10-16-2007 12:55 PM

Disaffiliation with the UPC????
 
If the Pastor decides to disaffilliate his Church from the UPC but does not discuss UPC issues as to why he is disaffilliating is he being honest or dishonest?

It takes either a Board Meeting or General Meeting doesn't it to vote for disaffilliation should he discuss with those the reasons he is disaffilliating?

imo...if the church is UPC they have a right to know why he believes they should disaffilliate...especially if he is not the founding pastor but voted in..

what say ye??

Joseph Miller 10-16-2007 01:03 PM

I say you are right.

If a pastor wants to disaffilliate then he should have a meeting with his people and explain why. He should be willing to answer any questions they may have. If the church don't want to disaffilliate then he puts himself between a rock and a hard place but at least the church gets to make the choice based on what they want.

Sister Alvear 10-16-2007 01:21 PM

I agree all things should be honestly done...

Joseph Miller 10-16-2007 01:23 PM

If the pastor presents all his feelings and says that he wants to disaffilliate with the UPCI and the church feels the same then I would support him. The bottom line is that if it is all done honestly then let them do what they feel they need to do.

Scott Hutchinson 10-16-2007 01:27 PM

If I understand this correctly if a affliatied church wants to disaffliate ,it has to be voted by the membership of the local church , so a pastor would need to explain to the church why he feels the need to disaffliate.
See one can disaffliate the church ,and lapse on the budget fees and still have a church to pastor.
If a man turns in his card,and the church is affliated He is out of a pastorate.

Joseph Miller 10-16-2007 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson (Post 273255)
If I understand this correctly if a affliatied church wants to disaffliate ,it has to be voted by the membership of the local church , so a pastor would need to explain to the church why he feels the need to disaffliate.
See one can disaffliate the church ,and lapse on the budget fees and still have a church to pastor.
If a man turns in his card,and the church is affliated He is out of a pastorate.

You are right.

Scott Hutchinson 10-16-2007 01:37 PM

Again if this is done honestly ,and the Pastor has the mind of Christ ,hey more power to him.
I know of a UPCI Pastor who started a church in a town ,and explained what the difference between affliation and non-affliation and let the people vote ,they voted not to affliate. The Pastor has been in that town 28 yrs. and the church has never affliated.

revrandy 10-16-2007 01:50 PM

I would think the more info the more honest the man is...I do believe people have a right to know especially if they finacially support the church...

Sister Alvear 10-16-2007 02:21 PM

When people ask me why I am not this or that....well your kin folks are this or that...I just tell them we have never felt to belong and we are building up a national work in Brazil. I would not use the term I left because I am more holy or they are more holy or however we define holy.
We have to know the DIVINE will of God for our lives and those we work with.
With that in mind we decide destiny for souls under our care that includes all of us who are leaders have people that are following us.

Praxeas 10-16-2007 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273220)
If the Pastor decides to disaffilliate his Church from the UPC but does not discuss UPC issues as to why he is disaffilliating is he being honest or dishonest?

It takes either a Board Meeting or General Meeting doesn't it to vote for disaffilliation should he discuss with those the reasons he is disaffilliating?

imo...if the church is UPC they have a right to know why he believes they should disaffilliate...especially if he is not the founding pastor but voted in..

what say ye??

Churches should have unbiased, objective boards rather than allow one man that much control. He should at least consider the opinions of the church membership

Whole Hearted 10-16-2007 02:41 PM

I have had several friends disaffiliate their churches. They must have a business meeting and you must invite an official of the UPC like a presbyter or DS. All those who I know had a official present.

freeatlast 10-16-2007 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Praxeas (Post 273365)
Churches should have unbiased, objective boards rather than allow one man that much control. He should at least consider the opinions of the church membership

Here's a different slant Prax. Our Church board decided we should vote to become non affiliated earlier this year.

Our pastor was not for this but the board voted on it and then took it to the church and the chuch voted on it and passed.

A meeting must be announced three times and the district informed of the intent of the church and they have the right to send a district representive to the business meeting to present wht they feel the church should remain affiliated.

Praxeas 10-16-2007 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by freeatlast (Post 273374)
Here's a different slant Prax. Our Church board decided we should vote to become non affiliated earlier this year.

Our pastor was not for this but the board voted on it and then took it to the church and the chuch voted on it and passed.

A meeting must be announced three times and the district informed of the intent of the church and they have the right to send a district representive to the business meeting to present wht they feel the church should remain affiliated.

I think the pastor should be on the board.

anapko 10-16-2007 03:04 PM

You should read the thread, "How Much Information Should The Saints Expect From Their Pastor?" Just don't mention Coonskinner's name!!

freeatlast 10-16-2007 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Praxeas (Post 273379)
I think the pastor should be on the board.

Pastor is President of the board or of our corporation I believe Prax, but he can't out vote the board of elders or trustee board.

revrandy 10-16-2007 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Whole Hearted (Post 273370)
I have had several friends disaffiliate their churches. They must have a business meeting and you must invite an official of the UPC like a presbyter or DS. All those who I know had a official present.

Was it explained to the church why they were disaffilliating?

hometown guy 10-16-2007 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273220)
If the Pastor decides to disaffilliate his Church from the UPC but does not discuss UPC issues as to why he is disaffilliating is he being honest or dishonest?

It takes either a Board Meeting or General Meeting doesn't it to vote for disaffilliation should he discuss with those the reasons he is disaffilliating?

imo...if the church is UPC they have a right to know why he believes they should disaffilliate...especially if he is not the founding pastor but voted in..

what say ye??

the church does not allways have the right to know,and the reasoning behind that is most churches are not upc but their pastors are and it has nothing to do with the saints in his church.if my pastor does not want to pay his dues then thats up to him.he is the one that pays them not the saints.

revrandy 10-16-2007 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273574)
the church does not allways have the right to know,and the reasoning behind that is most churches are not upc but their pastors are and it has nothing to do with the saints in his church.if my pastor does not want to pay his dues then thats up to him.he is the one that pays them not the saints.

So the saints don't go to UPC camp meetings or read the Herald or go to fellowship meetings with other churches or go to Conference??

hometown guy 10-16-2007 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273578)
So the saints don't go to UPC camp meetings or read the Herald or go to fellowship meetings with other churches or go to Conference??

really we dont we have our own camp in ventura and youth in atwater,ca and we will fellowship with the same churches, upc or not.as of now we do not do anything that upc puts on and even if we did go to upc stuff and our pastor got out it does not mean you cant attend campmeeting and confrencess that are put on by the upc.(they dont ask if your upc)

revrandy 10-16-2007 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273584)
really we dont we have our own camp in ventura and youth in atwater,ca and we will fellowship with the same churches, upc or not.as of now we do not do anything that upc puts on and even if we did go to upc stuff and our pastor got out it does not mean you cant attend campmeeting and confrencess that are put on by the upc.(they dont ask if your upc)

Why then is your Pastor still liscensed with the UPC?? It makes no sense...

hometown guy 10-16-2007 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273588)
Why then is your Pastor still liscensed with the UPC?? It makes no sense...

im not sure.but this is the first year that we didnt do anything upc.last year we went to wd campmeeting

revrandy 10-16-2007 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273592)
im not sure.but this is the first year that we didnt do anything upc.last year we went to wd campmeeting

How do you feel about it?

pelathais 10-16-2007 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273220)
If the Pastor decides to disaffilliate his Church from the UPC but does not discuss UPC issues as to why he is disaffilliating is he being honest or dishonest?

It takes either a Board Meeting or General Meeting doesn't it to vote for disaffilliation should he discuss with those the reasons he is disaffilliating?

imo...if the church is UPC they have a right to know why he believes they should disaffilliate...especially if he is not the founding pastor but voted in..

what say ye??

You seem to imply that the pastor has some responsibility and accountability toward the people he pastors. You are commendable for being a minister with such views. However, I think most of the folks in question view their local church as a personal fiefdom where their will and authority goes unchallenged.

They determine where the offerings go, even if the people have designated something else as their intent. The authoritarian pastor determines the style of music and worship and demands that everyone follow in lock step. When the pastor is in a good mood everyone is in revival. When the pastor is down, everyone travails.

If the pastor is diabetic or bipolar then folks had better be ready for a real roller coaster ride. Whatever the feelings of the pastor (and those family members who have learned how to manipulate him) are then that's what the church is going to be. Since these folks have convinced themselves that God talks to them through their feelings you had better be ready with the coffee, chocolate and pasta.

Whatever it takes to keep the pastor's mood swings on the up tick. As time goes on and he ages, his cravings may become even more carnal - but by then it may be too late for some people to dismount the beast they've been riding.

hometown guy 10-16-2007 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273603)
How do you feel about it?

i love it. im the youth pastor in our church and a lot of the section or distric church services they have i wouldnt want to take my youth anyways. i will back my pastor in the decesion he makes regarding the upc.

pelathais 10-16-2007 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273613)
i love it. im the youth pastor in our church and a lot of the section or distric church services they have i wouldnt want to take my youth anyways. i will back my pastor in the decesion he makes regarding the upc.

Why not take the youth to the district services? Is there something wrong with the way they are conducted?

hometown guy 10-16-2007 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by pelathais (Post 273615)
Why not take the youth to the district services? Is there something wrong with the way they are conducted?

yes! we almost took them to youth convention one of the nights since it was one of are friends last year involved but we didnt and were glad because of how one of the churches conducted themselfs

RevDWW 10-16-2007 07:57 PM

Wouldn't all this hinge on the local Church's By-laws?

Most church's do have by-laws don't they? And a board of elders?

Unless the church was bought and paid for by the Pastor it's not his to do with as he pleases is it?

hometown guy 10-16-2007 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by RevDWW (Post 273623)
Wouldn't all this hinge on the local Church's By-laws?

Most church's do have by-laws don't they? And a board of elders?

Unless the church was bought and paid for by the Pastor it's not his to do with as he pleases is it?

its his license not the churches

revrandy 10-16-2007 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273620)
yes! we almost took them to youth convention one of the nights since it was one of are friends last year involved but we didnt and were glad because of how one of the churches conducted themselfs

do you think that is protection or insecurity?

pelathais 10-16-2007 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273620)
yes! we almost took them to youth convention one of the nights since it was one of are friends last year involved but we didnt and were glad because of how one of the churches conducted themselfs

What happened? I find it hard to believe that "a church" conducted themselves badly. Of course I know I may be setting myself up here, but what did they do? What could they possibly have done to be disruptive of a district youth conference?

hometown guy 10-16-2007 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273639)
do you think that is protection or insecurity?

its not insecurity its protection and wisdom.

RevDWW 10-16-2007 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273628)
its his license not the churches

I think you mis-understand. A Minister came drop out of the org whenever he wants, but some churches have by-laws that state the Pastor must be licensed with the UPC. Disaffiliation has to do with the Church and it's property.

hometown guy 10-16-2007 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by RevDWW (Post 273687)
I think you mis-understand. A Minister came drop out of the org whenever he wants, but some churches have by-laws that state the Pastor must be licensed with the UPC. Disaffiliation has to do with the Church and it's property.

true and if the by-laws state that then thats that. but most churches do not have that in their by-laws.im on our board also and we dont have that in our by-laws.the saints in my church are not upc but my pastor is.

revrandy 10-16-2007 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273697)
true and if the by-laws state that then thats that. but most churches do not have that in their by-laws.im on our board also and we dont have that in our by-laws.the saints in my church are not upc but my pastor is.

Why??

hometown guy 10-16-2007 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by revrandy (Post 273702)
Why??

because he is the one that pays for his licensed not the church.if HE gets out then at that point our church has nothing to do with the upc.the church is not owned by the upc.they have no say so at our church.

pelathais 10-16-2007 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273710)
because he is the one that pays for his licensed not the church.if HE gets out then at that point our church has nothing to do with the upc.the church is not owned by the upc.they have no say so at our church.

It sounds like you have some anger toward the UPC in general. I'm not pointing a finger here, I felt a great deal of anger in the past toward the same org.

But the UPC isn't a monolith. It's a complex interaction of many different parts. What was it that made you feel you could not fellowship with the UPC in your area after that youth meeting you mentioned earlier?

Whole Hearted 10-16-2007 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273584)
really we dont we have our own camp in ventura and youth in atwater,ca and we will fellowship with the same churches, upc or not.as of now we do not do anything that upc puts on and even if we did go to upc stuff and our pastor got out it does not mean you cant attend campmeeting and confrencess that are put on by the upc.(they dont ask if your upc)

Our church isn't affialted.

Our kids go to an ind youth camp in Baton Rouge, LA and I attend camp meeting at North Little Rock. We don't use the UPC camps.

hometown guy 10-16-2007 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by pelathais (Post 273743)
It sounds like you have some anger toward the UPC in general. I'm not pointing a finger here, I felt a great deal of anger in the past toward the same org.

But the UPC isn't a monolith. It's a complex interaction of many different parts. What was it that made you feel you could not fellowship with the UPC in your area after that youth meeting you mentioned earlier?

i have no anger toward the upc.in fact that has been all that i have known all my life.its sad but i feel the upc is opening up a door that they will never be able to shut. and also it was not that one thing that made me not want to attend their meetings its eveything they have been allowing in almost all the meetings in our section.

RevDWW 10-16-2007 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Whole Hearted (Post 273747)
Our church isn't affialted.

Our kids go to an ind youth camp in Baton Rouge, LA and I attend camp meeting at North Little Rock. We don't use the UPC camps.

Steering away from the great unwashed?

pelathais 10-16-2007 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by hometown guy (Post 273762)
i have no anger toward the upc.in fact that has been all that i have known all my life.its sad but i feel the upc is opening up a door that they will never be able to shut. and also it was not that one thing that made me not want to attend their meetings its eveything they have been allowing in almost all the meetings in our section.

What have they been allowing in the meetings?


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