Coop...I promise you there is a place within the UPC that you can have a balanced life.

Over the past 25 years, after graduating from Bible School (a upc), our family has moved from the left to live a balanced center life focused on Christ. Some people would acutually call us liberal, but we consider our lives to be BALANCED.

We raised our children without the standards (pants, hair, makeup, movies, tv, etc...) and have been able to attend a UP Church. We have an active leadership role with Preaching, Leading Music, Sunday School Leader, and Home Friendship leaders.

We taught our children that in all things a Christian must live a modest life. You should be able to find a UPC that will teach these "standards" are not a heaven or hell issue and just a preference. At least most of the church in these part believe that. Look around...the fundamental doctrine of the UPC is still Bible and a lot of ministers eyes are being opened to the "standards" be preferences not salvational issues. There is still hope for you.