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Originally Posted by MissBrattified
Making myself look "sexy" in some way for my husband is not the same as playing a role just to "get through" a trick or drinking to "get through" a night of dancing. I don't have to tolerate sex. It's enjoyable. You're comparing apples and oranges.
I never said role playing was important. I don't think it's important at all. I would disagree with anyone teaching that it's an important part of a healthy sex life. What's "important" is determined by the two individuals in the relationship and by what fulfills the needs of each spouse.
I really don't get the entirety of what you're trying to say, and I realize you may not be able to articulate it on a public forum. Don't feel that you have to explain yourself to an uncomfortable extent.
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No, I'm not really comparing apples to oranges. Role playing has roots in places like Corinth and into Playboy.
Looking "sexy" for a spouse doesn't have to include "role playing".
What I am trying to say is that we need to be careful on advising or encouraging couples what is "okay" or "innocent" in their marriage. Too argue that we cannot be right if we disagree.
Some couples may need to leave things in their past as it only incites a lust they wanted to leave behind. A lust that is not healthy in a marriage and only opens doors that need to be left shut. I think we just need to see that side of it when we discuss what we all feel is important for every couple.
One couple may view that as so innocent they cannot conceive that anything could be wrong it in. Another couple may view that as a door they dare not touch and they dare not open.