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Originally Posted by Jay
Oh she will come back and haunt you!
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No she left my brother here for that!
The lack of a funeral did save a bunch of money (for me). Mom believed in spending what she had while she was living. Everybody has to do it their own way I guess.
Because we have 33 acres we can be buried on our own land in Texas. My son Joe has already started on the family pine boxes. Our family funeral plans include a few dear friends who will wash the body and dress it. A one day viewing at home in the pine box with what ever precious things we choose and then after it is closed everyone will sign it with notes of love and into the ground it will go. Since we don't have hard freezes here that plan works year round.
For anyone in an accident or requiring an autopsy that can not be viewed without reconstructive work requiring a mortician we will simply ask the medical examiners office to put the remains in a bag and put the bag in the box and have the same service without the viewing. For anyone damaged beyond being able to do that we will cremate and then put the ashes in a smaller box and do the same thing. Me, hubby and all the children and their wives have all agreed that this is the best way to handle things since we are not wealthy and funerals here are about $15K and up.
Don's family always does the traditional funeral and then everybody complains about how much was spent when it's over.
Mom wanted to donate her body to medical science and did to the University of Texas Medical School. Unfortunately she died too far away for them to pick her body up. In many ways I am relieved. Although intellectually I understand the need for cadavers I did not like the idea of my mother as one.