I gained a whole new respect for you today Bro. Robbins with just this one little line.
Don't read too much into that... Though the organization I'm ordained with, and minister within does have women pastors, was started by a woman, and I often minister for women pastors... I personally would never be a formal member of a church with a woman senior pastor. It was more of a rhetorical statement in light of the original question, not me providing my theological viewpoint of the appropriateness of women pastors.
Don't read too much into that... Though the organization I'm ordained with, and minister within does have women pastors, was started by a woman, and I often minister for women pastors... I personally would never be a formal member of a church with a woman senior pastor. It was more of a rhetorical statement in light of the original question, not me providing my theological viewpoint of the appropriateness of women pastors.
POOF! that was short lived...
So is it 'appropriate' for you to hug a male pastor... I mean if you can keep your self pure in thought and deed (not you personally, the common you) thorugh that... why not a nice seinor lady pastor... or even a hot young girl pastor??? Where is the Holy Ghost when you need Him? JK... well.. maybe.
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So is it 'appropriate' for you to hug a male pastor... I mean if you can keep your self pure in thought and deed (not you personally, the common you) thorugh that... why not a nice seinor lady pastor... or even a hot young girl pastor??? Where is the Holy Ghost when you need Him? JK... well.. maybe.
HUH? Totally misfired thoughts from what I originally posted.
The point I was making was that the appropriateness had nothing to do with the role the person played, it was a gender issue. In the culture I was brought up in, and live in, it's not appropriate for me as a male to hug any female, no matter her role in the church. Therefore, if my Senior Pastor were male, no issue hugging him, but if my Senior Pastor were female, it would be inappropriate... because she is female, not because of the role in the church.
HUH? Totally misfired thoughts from what I originally posted.
The point I was making was that the appropriateness had nothing to do with the role the person played, it was a gender issue. In the culture I was brought up in, and live in, it's not appropriate for me as a male to hug any female, no matter her role in the church. Therefore, if my Senior Pastor were male, no issue hugging him, but if my Senior Pastor were female, it would be inappropriate... because she is female, not because of the role in the church.
My question was WHY?
And if the answer is about lust my TIC point was that this makes a strong assumption that everyone in church is hetrosexual and could never 'stumble' over a same sex hug... in which case... not being able to guarantee that we should probably refrain from all hugging... or all touching... Or we could just get right with God and be able to hug anyone... only feeling sexy when we hug our spouse. That's my approach.
How about you ask your Pastors wife (if he has one) if its OK to hug her husband? See what kind of response she gives. If she says yes, then ask your Pastor if its ok and see what he says.
This issue is about respecting the standard of the church so if all else fails and you dont feel comfortable asking the one you want to hug if its ok, follow the standard set forth in the Church.
And if the answer is about lust my TIC point was that this makes a strong assumption that everyone in church is hetrosexual and could never 'stumble' over a same sex hug... in which case... not being able to guarantee that we should probably refrain from all hugging... or all touching... Or we could just get right with God and be able to hug anyone... only feeling sexy when we hug our spouse. That's my approach.
the answer is because culturally it's considered inappropriate contact.... and you wouldn't even see same gender hug one another in my culture unless they are family or extremely, extremely, extremly close friends. That invasion of personal space, and gesture of familiarity is one for only those within the closest of circles.... at least that's the rule of thumb for the culture I am from, and pretty much so for the culture I live in now. Has nothing to do with lust or sex, it's just personal space and familiarity, and appropriateness of expression.
Re: Is it okay to hug your Pastor?
, and a few months ago at the end of a transaction a customer hugged me......totally caught me off guard 
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