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03-11-2013, 01:16 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by rgcraig
If she acts like this now it will only get worse after she's "got you."
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Yep, yep, yep.
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
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03-11-2013, 01:17 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by Cindy
You just don't want to experience ALL of HIS experiences of his adventures.  |
Yeah....like a stone upside the head...or the edge of a saw...or shipwreck...or roasting marshmallows and a pit viper coming out of the fire and attaching itself to you.
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03-11-2013, 01:21 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Yeah....like a stone upside the head...or the edge of a saw...or shipwreck...or roasting marshmallows and a pit viper coming out of the fire and attaching itself to you.
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Roasting marshmallows........ 
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
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03-11-2013, 01:21 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by rgcraig
If she acts like this now it will only get worse after she's "got you."
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Yep, yep, yep.
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I second that.
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03-11-2013, 01:24 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Roasting marshmallows........ |
Modern day bonfire roasting???  
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03-11-2013, 01:29 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by RandyWayne
You find three close (single) friends and all put $50 bucks in a pot and vow not to do "it". Then the last one to give in will be labeled "Master of his own Domain" and win the $200.
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you've been watching to many Seinfeld episodes. lol 
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03-11-2013, 01:34 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by AreYouReady?
Modern day bonfire roasting??? |
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
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03-11-2013, 01:38 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by Aquila
Great questions...
Is it possible that it's the idea of marriage, not the idea of marrying her that makes you feel like this? Both. After getting to know her I feel like it will always be a battle of wills with me surrendering because I'm the big bad man if I hold my ground. The idea of marriage... she'd have to be pretty special. Because I start to feel tense and almost like I can't breathe.
Does she remind you of your ex in any way? Not really. This girl is very high maintenance. Everything is her way. Any television shows we watch, are hers. Anywhere we go, it has to be what she wants to do. I have no hobbies like I used to. When I tell her my thoughts and feelings, I feel like she often rewords them to make them wrong or disregards them in total and insists on what we're going to do. We've gotten into heated exchanges because I'm not the kind of guy who backs down when I believe I'm right... or if I need something. She reminds me of a spoiled princess sometimes. And I get so frustrated. I catch myself wanting to scream, "Hey there, do you see me? I exist!" I know that sounds terrible... but that's how I'm feeling. 
I'd rather have some voice in things... even if I'm wrong sometimes.
Don't get me wrong... when she's happy... it's great. But if she isn't happy... it's pure Hades. And it doesn't matter if I'm happy or not.
My ex didn't treat me like that. In fact, my ex was great until she backslid. Then she made new friends and wanted an open marriage... and I tried to be understanding and encourage counseling... but no go. She wasn't entirely to blame. I know I neglected her and certainly left her psychologically exhausted with my notions of getting into ministry and my frustrations when doors weren't opening.
But to answer your question... no... this girl doesn't remind me of my ex.
Is it possible that you are just fraid that your 2nd marriage will turn out the same as the first? I'm afraid it could be worse. But not in the cheating department. This girl is very faithful. The issue is that the battle of wills can be exhausting and linger for over a week. I feel like I've been through a grinder. And this girl is often very nice, sweet, respectful... but then she'll go beyond any bounderies I'm used to be people violating. For example, I got home from work and just wanted to relax. So we sat down, she turned on the televion and started reading a Bible devotional. Then she asked to see what I was reading and wouldn't give it back. It wasn't playful either. It was vindictive. I felt like she was treating me like a teenager. I just wanted to read. So, when she refused to be a rational adult and give it back and actually talk about what she wanted I lost it and went off and we had a bad argument. I told her that everything can't be her way. Just because I sit down doesn't mean that I'm free to do whatever she wants me to do. Sometimes the time is mine to spend the way I enjoy it. I had never felt more disrespected in my entire life.
In short... I don't think she'd cheat. But I can see a battle of wills that will ultimately end in one of us loosing total sanity with the other. Me just needing some time to do things I enjoy and being denied that time. Or her loosing it over not being able to control my every waking second.
Grrr. I'm still a little upset when I think about it. |
But. . . . .
. . . .Is she pretty?
Actually, this reminds me of one of my favorite lines in a Bond movie:
Bond: "Is she pretty?"
Tonaka: "She has a face like a pig."
Last edited by RandyWayne; 03-11-2013 at 01:41 PM.
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03-11-2013, 01:40 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by Cindy
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There's nothing left of the marshmallow or the stick.
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03-11-2013, 01:43 PM
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Re: Advice: The Single Christian
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Originally Posted by BrotherEastman
you've been watching to many Seinfeld episodes. lol |
I haven't seen that classic episode in a long long time but it is amazing how many know EXACTLY what I'm talking about when I bring up "Master of your own domain" -regardless of which church they go to. LOL
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