Not Just A Mom

[ILG]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

Being home and taking care of my family is where I'm happiest.

Me too. Some women claim they are happier working. I've never understood that. Maybe someone can enlighten me.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

WOW, thanks for that! I always thought I was spelling it wrong.

WOW is the same thing.

[KeptByTheWord]

Originally Posted by Adam

My mom personally feels that motherhood is not the highest calling for a woman. She wishes she had been a man. She is a staunch believer in abortion, having had one herself. She will tear you a new one if you ever challenge her on it. She has abused alcohol, drugs, cursed and swore, very arrogant, heady, high-minded, interrupts conversations, I could go on. She despises church going people. Yet, despite all this, I consider her my best friend because I can talk to her about anything. And, when my dad died when I was 12 and it was just her and me, she didn't abandon me. She never spanked me, and kept my father from spanking me as well. We always talked through everything. She's a character, read every book in the library, deaf as a board, loved by many. I'm fairly certain, though, that she wishes she could have had a fulfilling career, instead of being "pushed" by her parents into motherhood, and not encouraged to get an education.

Thanks for taking the time to respond Adam.

In essence from what you've said, your mother feels that her lack of education caused her to miss out on good things in life, and the fact that her life wasn't so great was in part was because she felt she was "pushed" to choose motherhood over having an education.

I can see the struggle she must have had when your dad died, and then having to be the breadwinner, on top of the fact that she didn't have an education. It must have been very hard. Give your mother as much love and respect as you can, because she did the best she could under the circumstances. It does sound as though you have a working relationship, and that is wonderful.

Adam, how do you feel about motherhood? Do you feel it is a woman's highest calling, or do you feel it is okay to put a career/education/job ahead of family?

[KeptByTheWord]

Originally Posted by Praxeas

Mom is one of the few words spelled backwards that still spells the same word....

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

WOW, thanks for that! I always thought I was spelling it wrong.

Originally Posted by ILG

WOW is the same thing.

LOL is the same thing too....

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

LOL is the same thing too....

MOM and POP LOL! That's about as deep as I can go on this subject.

[ILG]

Level

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by ILG

Level

MOM and POP were on the LEVEL and LOL!

Sorry, KeptByHisWord. It's ILG's fault.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

MOM and POP were on the LEVEL and LOL!

Sorry, KeptByHisWord. It's ILG's fault.

I think I am going to change my name to ILGLI. LOL!

[Adam]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

Adam, how do you feel about motherhood? Do you feel it is a woman's highest calling, or do you feel it is okay to put a career/education/job ahead of family?

Every woman is different. Some are not cut out to be mothers. There are girls that are tomboys, and others that play with dolls and doll houses. One woman may want to remain single and join the military or have a career. Another will want to be a wife and mother. Some women want to rob banks and kill people. We are all individuals, you cannot apply a broad generalization of "all women should be wives and mothers because it is the greatest calling a woman can achieve" to all women.

[Pressing-On]

I better add something to the discussion.

I am glad that my mom was a stay at home mom. With eight children, someone needed to be home all the time. We did have a maid, but she mostly did the laundry, ironing, etc. And my mother was a great cook!