I know of 3 different situations where 2 women share a home. In fact, in one of the situations, both women are extremely conservation Apostolic women. In all 3 situations I have had people come to me and ask whether I thought that these ladies were gay. I seriously do NOT believe that any of them are and firmly told everyone so when asked.
The point I am trying to make tho is that if people would ask questions about someone's sexuality just because they happen to share a home, even tho they are the same sex, what do you think they would do with 2 people of the OPPOSITE sex sharing a home!?
I do believe I would rather someone think I was 'living with a man' than to think I was a lesbian.
I know of 3 different situations where 2 women share a home. In fact, in one of the situations, both women are extremely conservation Apostolic women. In all 3 situations I have had people come to me and ask whether I thought that these ladies were gay. I seriously do NOT believe that any of them are and firmly told everyone so when asked.
The point I am trying to make tho is that if people would ask questions about someone's sexuality just because they happen to share a home, even tho they are the same sex, what do you think they would do with 2 people of the OPPOSITE sex sharing a home!?
This very thing happened with LadyRev and I, and she's married!!
Not once did anyone say anything about her husband and I, but things were said about HER and I!
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I do believe I would rather someone think I was 'living with a man' than to think I was a lesbian.
Martha, I completely agree with you!
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Originally Posted by HeavenlyOne
This very thing happened with LadyRev and I, and she's married!!
Not once did anyone say anything about her husband and I, but things were said about HER and I!
H1, don't you hate it when people stick their noses into things that they know absolutely NOTHING about! That's how I feel about it when people ask me about each of my friends. If they really knew these women, they wouldn't even consider the possibility that any of them could be gay. But instead of taking the time to get to know them, people just want to jump to their own conclusions and think the worst.
The one that REALLY angers me is the Apostolic couple. One of the women has a sister who was my good friend growing up. She has since moved to Montana and only sees her sister every few years. But the last time she came home to visit, she came over to visit me and asked me while she was here if I thought that her sister and her friend were gay. I couldn't BELIEVE that she would ask that!!
I'm not stupid and I don't have my head stuck in the sand. I know that these kinds of things can and do happen, even in Apostolic circles. But why would we jump to this conclusion as a FIRST reaction? And why do we think it is our place to bring judgement anyway? Unless there is positive evidence, we need to guard our own hearts carefully so that we don't become judge and jury and jump to wrong conclusions. Imagine what that can do to a person's life to be judged gay when they are not.
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H1, don't you hate it when people stick their noses into things that they know absolutely NOTHING about! That's how I feel about it when people ask me about each of my friends. If they really knew these women, they wouldn't even consider the possibility that any of them could be gay. But instead of taking the time to get to know them, people just want to jump to their own conclusions and think the worst.
The one that REALLY angers me is the Apostolic couple. One of the women has a sister who was my good friend growing up. She has since moved to Montana and only sees her sister every few years. But the last time she came home to visit, she came over to visit me and asked me while she was here if I thought that her sister and her friend were gay. I couldn't BELIEVE that she would ask that!!
I'm not stupid and I don't have my head stuck in the sand. I know that these kinds of things can and do happen, even in Apostolic circles. But why would we jump to this conclusion as a FIRST reaction? And why do we think it is our place to bring judgement anyway? Unless there is positive evidence, we need to guard our own hearts carefully so that we don't become judge and jury and jump to wrong conclusions. Imagine what that can do to a person's life to be judged gay when they are not.
That is just sad. Its horrible that people try to look or believe the worst in people rather then try to believe or look for the best of people and give them the benefit of the doubt even if they do think something is going on. I am not a fan of Joel Osteen but he does a have a pretty good teaching where he talks abt. giving people the benefit of the doubt and to not think bad thoughts automatically.
Yes it is sad that things in our culture are as they are.
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I'd rather rumors be spread that I'm living with lots of men and...well...doing whatever men and one woman do!!
Around here we fold clothes and hang things up; children's clothes and children's things. And we patch things that were damaged during some sort of "experiment" gone awry - like the neat perfectly round hold in the baseboard at the bottom of the stairs. I immediately suspected Galileo, what with the stairs representing something of an inclined plane and the round hole being evidence of a force. F=MA.
Then there was the time, coming home late from work, I passed by an empty bottle of of vinegar and and empty box of baking soda on the front lawn. I asked no questions.
That's what the men and women do around here. We're just observers; befuddled observers.
Around here we fold clothes and hang things up; children's clothes and children's things. And we patch things that were damaged during some sort of "experiment" gone awry - like the neat perfectly round hold in the baseboard at the bottom of the stairs. I immediately suspected Galileo, what with the stairs representing something of an inclined plane and the round hole being evidence of a force. F=MA.
Then there was the time, coming home late from work, I passed by an empty bottle of of vinegar and and empty box of baking soda on the front lawn. I asked no questions.
That's what the men and women do around here. We're just observers; befuddled observers.
Ummm, I hate to say it, but I believe that the people who fit that description were called "Quakers". Not alot of them left anymore. Kinda hard to pass it down generation to generation when all they could do was OBSERVE one another
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Ummm, I hate to say it, but I believe that the people who fit that description were called "Quakers". Not alot of them left anymore. Kinda hard to pass it down generation to generation when all they could do was OBSERVE one another