About True Love

[Juhann]

Me and my girl have knowing each other about 4 years, and about 3 years ago we made True Love Waits promise to each other in our local pentecostal church. We both have been away from our home town in different cities, which has made relationship distant and we don't see or talk much anymore. But now we have moved back to home town.

Now after all these years when we finally have a chance to deepen our relationship and start to plan even get married, there has come some issues. The city where I spend some years of my life had a bit malicious atmosphere. Because of my True Love Waits promise I didn't date any women there, so people started to rumor that I might be a gay. Also a one sinful woman tried to flirt me. I don't know does she know about this, but she might heard some rumors.
After moving back to our home town she has befriended with a man who we both have known for years, and she knows him even better and from longer time than me. I don't know is it just innocent friendship or is there any deeper feelings, dating, intimacy or even sexual matters between them. Somehow their friendship makes feel bad and If they are more than friends it would be against the promise what we had made. I still love her and feel that we have some kind of special soul tie between us. That's why this is so hard for me. We made that True Love Waits promise because we felt that there is this tie between us. Unfortenatly our lives have driven us to different directions, and now when we have chance to reunited, it isn't that clear anymore.

I don't know what to do. Do you know does TLW have any rules and principles for case like this, and what if she had done something what violates the promise. I haven't ask about this from her or anybody else in our church because issue seems to be extremely sensitive to her. I have hoped that God would give me some answers or advisory signs, but this far there has been only silence from that direction. What if she is loved to this other guy? I can't change her heart, and it would be wrong to deny her love. But on the other hand there is that promise. Has she cross the line and made a sin? Is our promise then canceled? What things will break the promise anyway? (I mean others than having a sex, which is obvious). I feel like I have come in some kind of crossroads in this matter.