Would You Ever Challenge Your Pastor?

[Fiyahstarter]

BT,

Let me give a few case scenarios, and tell me a) IF the congregant SHOULD tell the pastor why he's leaving, and if so, b) exactly what should the congregant say.

1) Congregant attends services for 5 years, enjoys the worship and preaching (for the most part) but cannot get "on board" with what he feels is extra-biblical teachings (certain standards) ... and because cannot get "on board" is unable to participate in any part of the ministry. Feels stagnant and feels must leave the congregation to "grow."

2) Congregant attends services faithfully for several years, dutiful tithe-payer, but has reservations about how the money is being spent.

3) Congregant attends services off and on...likes to experience different services at many different churches in the area. Does not feel obligated to attend just one church; does not desire to partake in church-building ministry. Rather, follows own heart and voice of God regarding where to go and where to give (both monetarily and time).

4) Congregant attends services faithfully for many years and has watched the church come full circle (standards were eliminated; music style went from traditional to contemporary; more of a younger generation thing). No longer enjoys the services...feels is too loud and somewhat showy.

Just curious...does a pastor really want to know when these people leave just WHY they left? Or are some things better left unsaid?