Does forgiveness mean trusting them again?

[ModestMama]

Hi friends.
I am having a really hard time with my feelings over a certian issue with a close (used to be) friend. (due to the sensitive situation I cannot disclose everything, please understand) A very awful situation arose in my family that I was made full aware of while enroute to go to freinds house to pick up my daughter. (my daughter and her daughter are close freinds as well). This friend became aware of it as well becuase my emotions were intense at the time.
(let me set this straight first of all....this friend is NOT a bad person she is very sweet and caring. Although when she sees fit for something to happen according to her will she sees to it)


To make this short....this friend called defacs (child protective services) the very next day on us after stating she would not. She was trying to make herself invloved in the outcome of this. (she actually had an outcome in her mind she insisted on) By that night we had already came up with a solution and the other party involved was in agreeance to it as well.

(by the way during all this our pastor told us in prayer at the alter he felt we were under an attack of a witchcraft spirt)...(not that i think that was from her at all..i belive it was from the abusers side)

It was a VERY troubling time for all of us...to have to suffer through dealing emotionally all the while being pushed into a corner with haste and defacs coming out to the home and then a forensic interview..and then the waiting....and the awkwardness of being at church with her..

So anyway...after several weeks of investigation they closed the case and stated they did not find evidence of any abuse. And both families (our and the abusers) went back to normal seemingly....
However the outcome of all of this has ripped a family apart and a friendship as well.
The outcome was not at all what my friend wanted. Although upon knowing she turned us in I havent spoken to her. So i don't think she knows the outcome.

Ok so heres the problem now....
I still love my friend so much and I miss her friendship! I am over the anger but i am so emotionally hurt. I KNOW she didnt do this to hurt us. But now I want to forgive her but I cannot trust her. Because I fear she will always be "watching" to see things are done according to her standards and if they arent i fear she will report us again. I also know that she has told a couple of families in the church of our situation as well. And i am upset about that too. For a couple of weeks we got the "pity...poor you" looks and greetings. And i felt those mothers were watcing us and pitying my daughter. I had to keep my daughter by my side for weeks for fear that someone will talk to her or say something to her about all of this and I didnt want her to know the extent of what happened. (she doesnt know what happened....she was asleep...forensics confirmed she isnt aware of what happened).

And even with keeping her by my side for a while my friend actually walked up to my husband and wanted to know why my daughter was "in trouble" and couldnt run and play with the other kids.

So here we are. I really do miss our friendship but I am so hurt. Im hurt that she did this. I'm hurt that she has told other ppl in our church. I want to forgive but what does that mean entirely?
Does it mean I am to say everything she did is ok?
Does it mean i forget it even happened and just carry on like it was before?
Or is forgiveness simply just a transaction of feelings turning to a more loving and positive note?
Is it possible to forgive but not trust?