For those who want to know...RULES at my church!

Originally Posted by Michlow

I also think that part of it, at least in my case, is that we can appear defensive or angry or bitter, simply because we spend so much time trying to justify our right to our emotions.

We are constantly admonished to get over it, to forgive, to let it go, to not be angry, etc. I get so frustrated by always being made to feel that my emotions, my thoughts, my experiences are not valid. I don't think those who have not experienced abuse can understand what it is like to be made to feel like you must somehow prove your right to be struggling, to having negative emotions, and doubts.

Maybe its so hard, because that is EXACTLY what we were made to feel during the abuse. That we had no right to question! No right to feel negatively towards what was expected of us. That the situation wasn't the problem. WE were!

And then, when we finally start to deconstruct the dysfuction around us, well meaning people come along and in trying to help, simply make it more difficult.

Mich...we can all sing this song....everyone heals in their own way and in there own time...I know your heart is seeking the truth and when we do that we can't lose! I did read your posts a time back, and understood your pain, your revelation, your time in your healing...its a path so many are on...my prayer is that we all make it to the goal...don't let the man or devil take away the precious gift God gave us! I refuse to let the evil ones win!