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Originally Posted by Michael Phelps
Felicity, I agree with this wholeheartedly. I've often asked the question "If we know what we believe why are we afraid to entertain opposing viewpoints"?
But, the answer I get from some is, "That's exactly why - I KNOW what I believe, so why should I waste my time arguing?"
I guess it's all in how you look at it...........in my experience, the people who usually don't want to discuss things are the ones who are struggling with their own beliefs and don't want to be faced with their insecurites - myself included!
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Agreed Michael. I think we all have things that we'd rather not see touched, but still we need to evaluate and re-evaluate.
Sometimes we can be very defensive and when we're in that frame of mind it's hard to hear what's being said whereas at another time when our guard is down and we're more "open" to hearing what's being said we're more able to "hear" and accept truth if it's there, even when it runs counter to what we've always believed.
The way things are presented sometimes makes us feel very defensive. Feeling as if we're being attacked or ridiculed puts people in "defense" mode and they most likely will NOT hear what is being said as a result. Something for us all to consider in the course of discussion.
I haven't yet figured out why people will jump on someone and scoff and ridicule when all they're doing is presenting their view or opinion. Disagree? Sure. But go into attack mode and assign "motive" simply because the individual has their own opinion and view and won't be swayed? Totally unnecessary and reveals "issues" on the part of the person doing the attacking, especially when it becomes "personal".
IMO.
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