Your past generations certainly experienced everything that you mentioned. It's not easy to forgive and forget! Sadly, I think the racial divide may not completely end until the generations that have experience the true personal effects of racism have passed on. Then the only racism will be what a new generation reads in history books.
There's no real way to right the past wrongs, except to acknowledge it, apologize and move on.
Those that continue to use the race card as a crutch or excuse will be left behind. When black and white leaders chastise their followers when the race card is used, then you will find true racial healing. Until then, using the race card just keeps racism alive.
I've said pretty much the same thing before on here. What really gets me is when people act like real, painful, and crippling discrimination is ancient history. It seems that people like to go back to slavery when arguing that everything is ancient history and choose to ignore what the reality was for the generation right before mine and how the effects of that will inevitably still exist...and exist pretty strongly.
You've got people on one side who are absolutely too quick to cry racism in a discussion or situation, and you have people on the other side who are too quick to cry "race card" in a discussion or situation.
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