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Originally Posted by GraceAmazing
I was there at this point in 2008...my husband was a licensed UPC minister and we have over 25 licensed ministers in our family...I NEVER thought I would get to that point either, but after having a daughter (who at 4 began to question EVERYTHING), I did some research to try to justify to our daughter why we held to the standards that we kept...I was surprised at what I found out...QUOTE]
Do you mind if I ask...Did your husband see it at the same time as you did? Did you wait to act on what you discovered? How did you handle it?
I think my husband is worried I'm just going to go out and buy all blue jeans and whack my hair short and "paint" my face, and just go NUTS...but that isn't the case. Wanting to cut my hair or wear makeup is not what this is about. I am trying to keep my attitude in check with the Lord...I have really been examining my own spirit lately, because I see how judgmental others can be, but yet I find myself judging others based on appearance too...this is so wrong! Jesus addressed this mindset multiple times, and especially came down hard on the Pharisees.
I want you all to know how much I appreciate your responses. Each of your experiences are unique, and I'm thankful that you're willing to share them. They have been an encouragement to me.  |
Oh, this could be a long story!
Maybe a private message would be better...but to answer what I want publicly, let's see...both of us thought the other one was the conservative one...when we realized how each other felt, we began to pray...our first conversation was in Cancun, Mexico overlooking a gorgeous ocean...we began to verbalize our thoughts, frustrations, concerns and fears...that was in August of 2003...BUT we kept things quiet until 2005, that was when our oldest daughter started begging to wear pants because she truly is the world's biggest tomboy...obviously I said no and gave the responses I had been taught...(and this story could get really long here, so here's the Paul Harvey shortened version)...we began to pray earnestly and study the scriptures and fast...in April 2008, we left my parents UPC church where we were on staff...in October 2008, we left the UPC...for five years we prayed, fasted and studied scripture, after scripture, after scripture...I do not look at it that we found liberty...there are still MANY things that we do not do because our upbringing and that is a good thing I think...
I may get into trouble saying this, but I personally feel that you and your husband should be on the same page...that may go against your grain right now and I really do feel for you and what you are going thru...NOTHING is worth your marriage, your family or relationships...
I can say that because we have suffered greatly...God is JUST NOW beginning to restore our family relationships...it has been hard and long and I'm not sure full healing will ever come...but ultimately we followed after His leading and He has kept His hand on us...
Saying many prayers for you AND your husband during this time...and like Sis. Falla asked if you have children...if you do, make sure you count the cost...think things thru, pray about them thoroughly and I recommend again finding a well-balanced man of God that you trust and that has gone thru what you have been thru...it will really help you make the choices that are best for you and your family...
And whatever you do, please don't become bitter...and I am adding that because I went thru a season of bitterness afterwards...again, I will really be praying for you and your husband during this transitional time...
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