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Originally Posted by Sherri
I am copying this from something I wrote on the tattoo thread - I thought it would make a good discussion starter on what is expected of the pastor's kids.
I think it was Rev. Randy who said that if Pastor's kids got tattoos (or whatever) and it was accepted, others would start to also. Well, my kids are NO DIFFERENT than anyone else's kids in church and they should not be made to feel like examples. That's one thing that drove my daughter away from church for a couple of years when she was about 17. She was so tired of being everyone's example, even though we never consciously tried to make her into that. No more should be expected of Pastor's kids than anyone else's, in my opinion. They did not choose the life of ministry; we did.
When my son came along six years later, we went overboard to let him know that he is the same as everyone else and no more is expected of him. He has never strayed from God and has a much healthier view of ministry at 18 than she did. At the church we pastor now in Jackson, probably half of the congregation or more do not even know that he is our son, and he is FINE with that.
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Whether or not the kids are good...bad...or indiffrent... generally they are a part of leadership whether they ask for it or not...
It's just that way in church.. Sad to say Many pastors put unrealistic expectations on their kids so much so it drives them away from the church.. not to mention the expectations put on them by the saints of the church...
My dad always drilled into us that fact that we represented him... and I in my own life begin to hate living that way..
Being a PK is a blessing and a curse at times...
but the truth is what the PK does there will be others that follow.. good or bad...
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