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[Margies3]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Does anyone here know anything about elder abuse? I don't want to start a thread about it, but I have some grave concerns about a loved one.

Carey,
I know that you can call the Department of Human Services and they will investigate elder abuse in the same way that they would investigate child abuse. In mose places, it would be the same investigators in fact. And it would be an anonymous call.

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by Margies3

Carey,
I know that you can call the Department of Human Services and they will investigate elder abuse in the same way that they would investigate child abuse. In mose places, it would be the same investigators in fact. And it would be an anonymous call.

What if it's family? I hesitate to go to this desperate a measure right now. My husband and I feel the need to first confront the family member who is caring for this elder about the lack of care.

Here's the scenario...please any and all tell me if I'm over reacting.

93 yr. old diabetic woman living with her daughter. She get's bathed once a week, only changes her clothes when she feels like it, eats what she wants to and is only monitoring her blood sugar two times/week. Blood sugar has been slighly elevated for some time now. Her pills/meds are not being monitored - she keeps her meds in her walker and self-administers them. Her bed at home was too high for her so the box spring was removed from the bed...she had a broken back years ago and suffers from osteoporosis. Her robe reaked of urine...

On top of this, in a week or so, 93 yr. old will be taken by daughter several hours away from home to stay in a camp trailer for 2 weeks to a place that I'm not even sure has water hookups. Needless to say, I'm VERY concerned about her welfare...not exactly sure what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated!!!

[Ron]

Originally Posted by CareyM

What if it's family? I hesitate to go to this desperate a measure right now. My husband and I feel the need to first confront the family member who is caring for this elder about the lack of care.

Here's the scenario...please any and all tell me if I'm over reacting.

93 yr. old diabetic woman living with her daughter. She get's bathed once a week, only changes her clothes when she feels like it, eats what she wants to and is only monitoring her blood sugar two times/week. Blood sugar has been slighly elevated for some time now. Her pills/meds are not being monitored - she keeps her meds in her walker and self-administers them. Her bed at home was too high for her so the box spring was removed from the bed...she had a broken back years ago and suffers from osteoporosis. Her robe reaked of urine...

On top of this, in a week or so, 93 yr. old will be taken by daughter several hours away from home to stay in a camp trailer for 2 weeks to a place that I'm not even sure has water hookups. Needless to say, I'm VERY concerned about her welfare...not exactly sure what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated!!!

That is appropriate.

Let this family member know that "she" is responsible and will be held accountable if something happens.

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by Ron

That is appropriate.

Let this family member know that "she" is responsible and will be held accountable if something happens.

Thank you Ron, for the encouragement.

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by Ron

That is appropriate.

Let this family member know that "she" is responsible and will be held accountable if something happens.

The only thing with this approach (which I don't disagree with) is if you do confront the family member and they do nothing to change, if you subsequently make an anon report to the county agency, it is probably going to be pretty apparent where the complaint came from.

I guess it depends on how much you need to keep peace with this person. Either way, based on what you have said, I don't think you are overreacting, and I do think for the sake of your conscience, and for the sake of the elderly relative, you need to do something. IMO.

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

The only thing with this approach (which I don't disagree with) is if you do confront the family member and they do nothing to change, if you subsequently make an anon report to the county agency, it is probably going to be pretty apparent where the complaint came from.

I guess it depends on how much you need to keep peace with this person. Either way, based on what you have said, I don't think you are overreacting, and I do think for the sake of your conscience, and for the sake of the elderly relative, you need to do something. IMO.

Thank you...when I mentioned the situation to my mom (she's been a cna for years) she told me that it is abuse.

The biggest problem I see is that the person we will be confronting is my MIL....

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Thank you...when I mentioned the situation to my mom (she's been a cna for years) she told me that it is abuse.

The biggest problem I see is that the person we will be confronting is my MIL....:reaction

Oh, DEAR!!!!



Will def. be praying for you!!!

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

Oh, DEAR!!!!



Will def. be praying for you!!!

Thank you, I really appreciate it...it will be a very touchy "talk". I will not do it without my husband there to support me.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Thank you...when I mentioned the situation to my mom (she's been a cna for years) she told me that it is abuse.

The biggest problem I see is that the person we will be confronting is my MIL....

Yikes!!! Good luck with that one!!

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Yikes!!! Good luck with that one!!

I KNOW...I'm so not looking forward to it.