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Old 10-04-2008, 07:58 PM
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Re: If you want to leave your spouse, dont read th

The Church of God of Prophecy would tell you that you have to divorce the present one and return to the first one. That the second marriage is not really a marriage before God. We have dealt with this more than once from people who were raised in that background. By refusing to recognize any second marriages, they alienate themselves from about half of society.
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Old 10-04-2008, 08:13 PM
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no no no, what Im saying is- if a person wants to leave their spouse, can they leave the church, divorce, remarry and come back and be recieved with open arms and get to then choose which spouse they would like to keep?
The person who would calculate such insanity could return to the church congregation, but in his heart lies a deceitful plan that would prevent salvation unless he repented and returned to the first wife-- if she even wanted the loser after all of that.

God is not the author of confusion.

If this was to really happen, in the absence of an elaborate scheme, I doubt that God would lead the former backslidden and now repentant saint into a situation where he would be antagonizing his former faithful wife.
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Old 10-04-2008, 08:48 PM
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If a person has left a spouse and remarried, then how could they return to their old spouse ? I'm a not pastor,I believe in backsliders being restored,but I can't see a person who has remarried,returning back to their old spouse,if they have remarried.
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If a person has left a spouse and remarried, then how could they return to their old spouse ? I'm a not pastor,I believe in backsliders being restored,but I can't see a person who has remarried,returning back to their old spouse,if they have remarried.

If you have calculated your backsliding, divorce, remarriage-- all with the intent of coming back to God once everything has settled down, how could you not attempt to return to your first wife upon repentance?

The calculating of all that mess is what would invalidate the 2nd marriage, imo.

If it was not planned that way and it worked out that way, that would be a different scenario.
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I can see a man falling in love with another woman and leaving church because of his adultery. Then he might conceivably leave his first wife to marry the other woman. Now married to the woman he thinks he loves he could try to return to church. I don't see any church in the land kicking him out. But I can see not using him in any leadership role whatsoever for the rest of his life. Let him try to work out his salvation. And odds are the second marriage will fail too.
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I can see a man falling in love with another woman and leaving church because of his adultery. Then he might conceivably leave his first wife to marry the other woman. Now married to the woman he thinks he loves he could try to return to church. I don't see any church in the land kicking him out. But I can see not using him in any leadership role whatsoever for the rest of his life. Let him try to work out his salvation. And odds are the second marriage will fail too.
yeah I would hope nothing but the best for anyone caught in such a confusingly messy situation.
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I can see a man falling in love with another woman and leaving church because of his adultery. Then he might conceivably leave his first wife to marry the other woman. Now married to the woman he thinks he loves he could try to return to church. I don't see any church in the land kicking him out. But I can see not using him in any leadership role whatsoever for the rest of his life. Let him try to work out his salvation. And odds are the second marriage will fail too.
If a man or woman does not leave the church but divorces and remarries maybe they should just find another church so there wont be the judgement factor to deal with from people that know the first spouse?
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If a man or woman does not leave the church but divorces and remarries maybe they should just find another church so there wont be the judgement factor to deal with from people that know the first spouse?
This was not the premise you started this thread on. Let's face it, divorce and remarriage are judged, and not just in the church. As for your scenario it seems someone has a problem and it has nothing to do with being judged by anyone.
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Heb 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
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Heb 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
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