Living Arrangements

[Margies3]

Originally Posted by marthaolivia

I do believe I would rather someone think I was 'living with a man' than to think I was a lesbian.

Martha, I completely agree with you!

Originally Posted by HeavenlyOne

This very thing happened with LadyRev and I, and she's married!!

Not once did anyone say anything about her husband and I, but things were said about HER and I!

H1, don't you hate it when people stick their noses into things that they know absolutely NOTHING about! That's how I feel about it when people ask me about each of my friends. If they really knew these women, they wouldn't even consider the possibility that any of them could be gay. But instead of taking the time to get to know them, people just want to jump to their own conclusions and think the worst.

The one that REALLY angers me is the Apostolic couple. One of the women has a sister who was my good friend growing up. She has since moved to Montana and only sees her sister every few years. But the last time she came home to visit, she came over to visit me and asked me while she was here if I thought that her sister and her friend were gay. I couldn't BELIEVE that she would ask that!!

I'm not stupid and I don't have my head stuck in the sand. I know that these kinds of things can and do happen, even in Apostolic circles. But why would we jump to this conclusion as a FIRST reaction? And why do we think it is our place to bring judgement anyway? Unless there is positive evidence, we need to guard our own hearts carefully so that we don't become judge and jury and jump to wrong conclusions. Imagine what that can do to a person's life to be judged gay when they are not.

[pentecostalguy]

Originally Posted by Margies3

Martha, I completely agree with you!



H1, don't you hate it when people stick their noses into things that they know absolutely NOTHING about! That's how I feel about it when people ask me about each of my friends. If they really knew these women, they wouldn't even consider the possibility that any of them could be gay. But instead of taking the time to get to know them, people just want to jump to their own conclusions and think the worst.

The one that REALLY angers me is the Apostolic couple. One of the women has a sister who was my good friend growing up. She has since moved to Montana and only sees her sister every few years. But the last time she came home to visit, she came over to visit me and asked me while she was here if I thought that her sister and her friend were gay. I couldn't BELIEVE that she would ask that!!

I'm not stupid and I don't have my head stuck in the sand. I know that these kinds of things can and do happen, even in Apostolic circles. But why would we jump to this conclusion as a FIRST reaction? And why do we think it is our place to bring judgement anyway? Unless there is positive evidence, we need to guard our own hearts carefully so that we don't become judge and jury and jump to wrong conclusions. Imagine what that can do to a person's life to be judged gay when they are not.

That is just sad. Its horrible that people try to look or believe the worst in people rather then try to believe or look for the best of people and give them the benefit of the doubt even if they do think something is going on. I am not a fan of Joel Osteen but he does a have a pretty good teaching where he talks abt. giving people the benefit of the doubt and to not think bad thoughts automatically.