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Originally Posted by BadgerBoysMom
OK - Confession time! LOL 
More than 12 yrs ago I landed myself at church pregnant. The story is way too long to get into here but I was new at this church. I had previously been in another (UPC) church and "backslid" for over a year and then "got back in church". A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Due to circumstances and for the safety of me and my child I moved far away (to the area in which I now live and go to church).
Anyhow, I was new, young and single as far as everyone knew. I was so badly hurt emotionally by the situation I just come from I didn't open up right away to anyone. I was SCARED TO DEATH of the judgement I was facing (at least in my mind). I knew I would be "showing" soon and would have to do some explaining! LOL
Very few people know the details of how I ended up in the situation but when every one found out I was pregnant they rallied around me and really stood by me. There were a few busy bodies and nosey gossips but I was able to work through it. Now they are gone and I am still there (go figure)
Ultimately what happened - I met and married my current (wonderful) husband and between us we have 3 kids. Had I married the father of my child.... it would NOT have ended well.... In my case marrying him was NOT the right thing to do. It would have been the wrong thing to do. |
What a great story! Thanks for sharing that.
I have a...well, we'll just say "female relative"...lol, who got pregnant by a real jerk. He bailed on her the moment he found out she was pregnant, but even if he hadn't--he was not marrying material.
She met her husband shortly before her son was born, he fell in love with her, supported her through the birth of her son, and then married her and adopted the baby. They are still together, happy, and have a second son.
So, I agree, marriage isn't always the answer. Especially if one or both parties aren't mature enough to handle it, or have no interest in it, really.
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