So you do not think one would do it because of being looked down upon in the church....for being pregnant and not being married..
I think the churches who do that are few and far between. I know this has happened in several churches (including ones I attended) that I'm aware of, and normally, while the pregnancy is not celebrated, the church is usually supportive of the woman or the couple. Especially if they're very young.
Support includes leading them both to repentance, btw, but hopefully in this manner:
Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Galatians 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
When a situation such as an unwanted pregnancy occurs, there are both practical and spiritual components to consider. Any good support will address both.
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--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
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So you do not think one would do it because of being looked down upon in the church....for being pregnant and not being married..
Do you mean they hurried to get married before anyone knew there was a pregnancy?
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I remember closed-door all church member meetings where it was announced that so-and-so was pregnant, and I still can hear the collective gasp! from many people in the "audience" when the pastor uttered those words.
Granted, many of these same members could have listened more closely to George Michael at the time (mid 80's)....
In that case, they're probably short changing themselves by not seeking godly counsel and the assistance of their family and friends, before they make such a decision.
I don't think it's wrong for them to marry, but it's not a good way to approach a lifelong covenant. It can work, but if they don't reassess their relationship and change their approach, it's bound to cause problems.
I try really hard not to be of the "you made your bed--now lie in it" crowd. HOWEVER, there are consequences to certain decisions. The pregnancy is unavoidable, and in some cultures, marriage is also a definite consequence. They must be somewhat attracted to one another, or they wouldn't have had sex in the first place, so there's that.....
Regardless of what they decide to do, the father needs to remain available to the mother of his child for the rest of their lives, even if he marries another woman. To me, it just makes better sense for everyone, especially the child, for them to be married and be a family.
I know it's not quite that cut and dried, though.
As to your question--I don't think they should get married quickly or secretly just to cover up the pregnancy. That puts them in a position to be dishonest from the get go.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I've known of babies born several months "premature", but weigh in at like 8 lbs. Isn't that odd?
lol!!!!
That's always odd.
Hannah recently embarrassed me by telling someone that we were married in July, and she was born the following September!!!! It was actually July of 1994, followed by her birth in September of 1995.
So much fun setting that straight!
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
It was actually July of 1994, followed by her birth in September of 1995. 
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