Ministries for women porn addicts

[RandyWayne]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Is it sin to be with a french maid? Yes!

Then would it be sin to lust after one? Yes!

Would it be sin to fantasize about being with a french maid? Yes

Would it be sin to act out the fantasy? YES!

Maybe men need a class on contentment on what God has provided.

What if your wife IS a French Maid?

Or a doctor? That lab coat is just...... rrrrrrrroooaaarrrrrr!

And furthermore, does the light need to be out? Or does it create unnecessary lust in the carnal male mind?

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

What if your wife IS a French Maid?

Or a doctor? That lab coat is just...... rrrrrrrroooaaarrrrrr!

And furthermore, does the light need to be out? Or does it create unnecessary lust in the carnal male mind?

depends if acting out affair with doctor/maid.

What if a mate wants to imagine being with someone else while with mate, is that approriate? I know someone who asked his wife if he could call her someone else during intimacy. I guess this would be ok since it's just make believe like kids playing cops and robbers.

[Aquila]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

depends if acting out affair with doctor/maid.

What if a mate wants to imagine being with someone else while with mate, is that approriate? I know someone who asked his wife if he could call her someone else during intimacy. I guess this would be ok since it's just make believe like kids playing cops and robbers.

Truth, I agree with you. A spouse should never imagine being with someone else while with their mate. However, pretending that their wife is a French maid is entirely different.

[Jeffrey]

Originally Posted by Aquila

Truth, I agree with you. A spouse should never imagine being with someone else while with their mate. However, pretending that their wife is a French maid is entirely different.

Please. How many HAVEN'T done this?

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by Jeffrey

Please. How many HAVEN'T done this?

I would be very upset if I found out my husband was fantasizing about someone else while with me. Anyone who has done that needs to tell God they're sorry, and focus on their spouse. Why would you think of another person when you have someone right in front of you?

I asked my husband about it, and he answered very honestly. Respectfully, I won't share his complete answer. Basically he said that we can't control what thoughts pop into our heads, but if something inappropriate does come up, you have to take control over that and think about something different. (e.g., your wife instead of a pornographic image)

My husband said: "If I need visual stimulation, I need to just open my eyes...."

[Jeffrey]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I would be very upset if I found out my husband was fantasizing about someone else while with me. Anyone who has done that needs to tell God they're sorry, and focus on their spouse. Why would you think of another person when you have someone right in front of you?

I asked my husband about it, and he answered very honestly. Respectfully, I won't share his complete answer. Basically he said that we can't control what thoughts pop into our heads, but if something inappropriate does come up, you have to take control over that and think about something different. (e.g., your wife instead of a pornographic image)

My husband said: "If I need visual stimulation, I need to just open my eyes...."

I understand and what you say makes perfect sense.

However, the reality is, how many have done that? Have you ever? To be rational and calculated during sex is unrealistic. It's when we are the least rational and operating fully off chemicals!

So, we may try. But what do you say to the guy who gets continual thoughts in his head during love making about scenarios, people, even including his wife? How do you rationally control that? Stop what you're doing and count to 10? See what I mean?

I think it's great your husband was honest and I think it's more common than many want to admit.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by Jeffrey

I understand and what you say makes perfect sense.

However, the reality is, how many have done that? Have you ever? To be rational and calculated during sex is unrealistic. It's when we are the least rational and operating fully off chemicals!

So, we may try. But what do you say to the guy who gets continual thoughts in his head during love making about scenarios, people, even including his wife? How do you rationally control that? Stop what you're doing and count to 10? See what I mean?

I think it's great your husband was honest and I think it's more common than many want to admit.

I think there's a difference between what images randomly pop into your head and what ideas you allow yourself to focus on. It's not wrong to see a beautiful woman, notice that she's beautiful, and even have an instantaneous [involuntary] sexual response. However, if you allow yourself to continue that feeling unchecked by the boundaries of morality put in place by the laws of God, then you are going down the path of lust, fornication and/or adultery.

II Corinthians 10:5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;