Sex Scenes

[Socialite]

I think this subject is difficult because some can't conceive that their husband is like "other men." That doesn't mean he's a bad man that lacks character. I'm talking about the challenges his "hardwiring" presents him. If anything, a woman's gracious response would be one of love and support, and as many of you have already said, an awareness to keep trash out of the home.

Taking us back to the thread topic, sex scenes. How acceptable are they? Can we even do anything about them? How do we "flee fornication" in this area? A man attaches himself to images in ways a woman attaches herself with emotion. It can be devastating if we ignore it.

[Elizabeth]

Originally Posted by Socialite

I think this subject is difficult because some can't conceive that their husband is like "other men." That doesn't mean he's a bad man that lacks character. I'm talking about the challenges his "hardwiring" presents him. If anything, a woman's gracious response would be one of love and support, and as many of you have already said, an awareness to keep trash out of the home.

Taking us back to the thread topic, sex scenes. How acceptable are they? Can we even do anything about them? How do we "flee fornication" in this area? A man attaches himself to images in ways a woman attaches herself with emotion. It can be devastating if we ignore it.

Well I think that is what Renda was saying, was wake up! No matter how spiritual or awesome your husband is, he is still a man- HELLO! So make yourself presentable and do not give him a reason to look else where!

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by Elizabeth

Well I think that is what Renda was saying, was wake up! No matter how spiritual or awesome your husband is, he is still a man- HELLO! So make yourself presentable and do not give him a reason to look else where!

Very true.

And not only help him eliminate reasons, but to do our best as a loving family to remove visual pornography for our home. The more that is left there, it's like a mine field. All will be okay, until one fateful day. Images are implanted, they can build up and explode like a bomb out of the blue in the style of an affair that leaves in its wake beautiful, sexy brides all the time. They wonder "I don't get it. I gave him everything he wanted."

I've seen it. You've seen it. We all have.

[*AQuietPlace*]

Originally Posted by Socialite

And not only help him eliminate reasons, but to do our best as a loving family to remove visual pornography for our home.

I agree with this.

There is a lot in media that simply isn't wholesome. We try to be very discerning and careful. I can't write that out in black and white.... what we allow and what we don't.... but we try to have a discerning spirit. If something makes us start feeling very squirmy and uncomfortable, that's a real good sign that we don't need to be watching it. And I pray often that we don't override that feeling, until we no longer notice the nudging of the spirit.

[Elizabeth]

Originally Posted by Socialite

Very true.

And not only help him eliminate reasons, but to do our best as a loving family to remove visual pornography for our home. The more that is left there, it's like a mine field. All will be okay, until one fateful day. Images are implanted, they can build up and explode like a bomb out of the blue in the style of an affair that leaves in its wake beautiful, sexy brides all the time. They wonder "I don't get it. I gave him everything he wanted."

I've seen it. You've seen it. We all have.

Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

I agree with this.

There is a lot in media that simply isn't wholesome. We try to be very discerning and careful. I can't write that out in black and white.... what we allow and what we don't.... but we try to have a discerning spirit. If something makes us start feeling very squirmy and uncomfortable, that's a real good sign that we don't need to be watching it. And I pray often that we don't override that feeling, until we no longer notice the nudging of the spirit.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

I agree with this.

There is a lot in media that simply isn't wholesome. We try to be very discerning and careful. I can't write that out in black and white.... what we allow and what we don't.... but we try to have a discerning spirit. If something makes us start feeling very squirmy and uncomfortable, that's a real good sign that we don't need to be watching it. And I pray often that we don't override that feeling, until we no longer notice the nudging of the spirit.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Socialite

I think this subject is difficult because some can't conceive that their husband is like "other men." That doesn't mean he's a bad man that lacks character. I'm talking about the challenges his "hardwiring" presents him. If anything, a woman's gracious response would be one of love and support, and as many of you have already said, an awareness to keep trash out of the home.

Taking us back to the thread topic, sex scenes. How acceptable are they? Can we even do anything about them? How do we "flee fornication" in this area? A man attaches himself to images in ways a woman attaches herself with emotion. It can be devastating if we ignore it.

But I don't feel the emotion I feel when watching a love (not nude) scene is bad. It is emotionally stimulating. So, it's a hard comparision.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by ILG

But I don't feel the emotion I feel when watching a love (not nude) scene is bad. It is emotionally stimulating. So, it's a hard comparision.

Without referring to my Every Woman's Battle book, I'll have to direct this post to a resident woman.

What about it is emotionally stimulating? What's going on in that moment? In what ways could that possibly compare to a man being visually stimulated to the point of desire and lust?

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Socialite

Without referring to my Every Woman's Battle book, I'll have to direct this post to a resident woman.

What about it is emotionally stimulating? What's going on in that moment? In what ways could that possibly compare to a man being visually stimulated to the point of desire and lust?

When a man woos a woman and finally wins her and kisses her in a movie, that is very emotionally stimulating. Seeing a man and a woman nude I think would be more of a turn-off. I don't want to see that. I don't know how it compares.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by ILG

When a man woos a woman and finally wins her and kisses her in a movie, that is very emotionally stimulating. Seeing a man and a woman nude I think would be more of a turn-off. I don't want to see that. I don't know how it compares.

And herein is another observable difference between the sexes.

Men could be stimulated by nude images. Women require "nude" situations. It's the difference between a Playboy and a Harlequin.