Have you attended a Muslim or Hindu Wedding... ?

[Michlow]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

Hey Michlow!

How are you and your family? Merry Christmas and Happy New Years to you!

I was not invited to your wedding.


However, if I had been invited to your wedding and you told me that the person you were marrying was a confessed atheist, there would be a long pause between your invite and my RSVP.



Your case would be different from attending the wedding ceremony of two unbelievers or of two pagans.

Please don't be offended. You know me and you know my heart. The more I think about it, if I had been invited I would have respectfully declined the invite.


I would still wish you the best of success (which in my mind would include the eventual salvation of your atheist husband) and I would definitely pray for you and your family.


Please forgive my lack of graciousness.

Remember the "MADD" commercials from the 80's that ended with the phrase, "... a friend does not let a friend drive drunk" ?


Should you expect your Christian friends to congratulate your marriage to an atheist? Not hardly-- especially if they are your true friends.

I appreciate your thoughts, and there is no need for forgiveness!

I am fully aware that there are many who love me, but in good conscience cannot approve of some of the choices I've made in my life. Just as long as they still love me!

Trust me, there are times in the past few months when I have been well aware of how different things would have gone if I had lived my life differently.

*I would not have had to have weeks worth of discussions with my now husband about why I couldn't have an abortion and just get pregnant later when we were "ready" to have children.

*I would not have had to have a quickie wedding planned in 3 days so that I would be covered under his insurance and could get decent prenatal care.

*We would not now have to plan a way to raise our child in which we give her the ability to choose what she will believe.

So yes, there are definitely consequences to my actions. And yet, there are things that I cannot deny.

When I was doing everything "right", I was trapped in a loveless marriage, miserable and barren, with no hope of any joy or happiness in the future.

And now I am blessed with a wonderful husband (who is extremely moral, though his morality does not come from belief in the divine), who I am madly in love with, and who loves me very much. And I am actually having a baby, something I never thought possible!

So though I have regrets (who wants to get married because of insurance?), I still feel like I have totally and completely blessed!