How should I feel?

[giveahoot22]

I know this may not be the place to talk about something that is annoying me beyond words but I can not help it.
You see I still live with my mother and though we normally get along great lately it seems she hates me.

Alright I will make a long story short, almost two years ago -two years in January- my sister got divorced from her husband who was cruel and a bad drunk, my sister has since got into church and has received the Holy Ghost.
Ever since she and her ex-husband separated my mother and I have been helping my sister keep her house clean, we have took up the chore of all the cooking and doing everything for the kids.
It is like we are the second parent to the children.

I know this has created a lot of stress for my mother but I believe and I feel she has no right to take out her anger on me since I am the only one who helps her look after my niece and nephew as help care for my elderly grand parents.
I am so annoyed that everyday she says I am useless and that I do nothing right.

I can not help but rant about it for I feel so horrible that I am unable to help her.
I feel that I am nothing but a failure to her.

[Esaias]

Originally Posted by giveahoot22

I know this may not be the place to talk about something that is annoying me beyond words but I can not help it.
You see I still live with my mother and though we normally get along great lately it seems she hates me.

Alright I will make a long story short, almost two years ago -two years in January- my sister got divorced from her husband who was cruel and a bad drunk, my sister has since got into church and has received the Holy Ghost.
Ever since she and her ex-husband separated my mother and I have been helping my sister keep her house clean, we have took up the chore of all the cooking and doing everything for the kids.
It is like we are the second parent to the children.

I know this has created a lot of stress for my mother but I believe and I feel she has no right to take out her anger on me since I am the only one who helps her look after my niece and nephew as help care for my elderly grand parents.
I am so annoyed that everyday she says I am useless and that I do nothing right.

I can not help but rant about it for I feel so horrible that I am unable to help her.
I feel that I am nothing but a failure to her.

1. You are not a failure. How can you be a failure if you are helping family when they need help?

2. Your mother is obviously under stress. I do not know her situation, so cannot comment on that. But, we are told to honour our mothers and fathers. That commandment did not come with an exception clause. We must honour them, even if they do not act like they deserve it. Pray for her, when she curses you turn around and bless her, tell her you are thankful for God's blessings in your life, including her. Don't make it sound sarcastic tho! lol It hurts, I'm sure, but keep in mind that she is not speaking from the Spirit of God and therefore it is not to be expected that she would treat you right. Tough to deal with? Sure, but prayer will change things - beginning with your reaction to her hurtful words.

Bless them that curse you, do good to them that despitefully use you, etc.

You may need to just sit down with her sometime and talk about it. Ask her why she is angry with you.

But most of all, pray about it.

[Esaias]

BTW, it is perfectly okay to feel angry when you are mistreated. We all have a sense of right of wrong, and when we are wronged, we feel it. Just don't let that anger at being treated unrighteously turn into bitterness or hate towards the person who is treating you wrong. I am sure each of us has probably caused someone to wonder 'what did I ever do to them to deserve being treated like this?' even though we may not have known we were doing somebody wrong.

Stress does weird things to people.