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Originally Posted by Sasha
What I personally witnessed from a few children of mixed race is that they sometimes have an identity crisis. For instance, one such young girl wanted to be white like her mom, but her dad was very black and none of the children looked like they had a white mother at all. The girl was upset because she wanted to date a white boy and while she had a lot of white boy friends, none of them she was interested in wanted to date her. The struggle to 'belong' was a horrible thing for her to go through. She isn't the only one I have seen struggle with that issue. Do any of your children voice anything like the above or have you ever seen that?
I have never dated outside of my race simply because I wasn't interested, not because of their color. My sister is dating a black man. I love him regardless because he takes care of her. My brother doesn't like it because he thinks we should 'stick to our own kind' even though he likes the guy as a good friend.
Being with 'our own kind' is normal, I think. While there are some like my sister, mother in law, and yourself who choose to date outside their race, it's not typical.
I love everyone no matter what...unless you pick on my kids. Then I'm a momma bear! LOL!
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Good post!
I can speak to what you have in bold, because my niece has experienced that identify crises, her father being Hispanic. Even though a good and decent man, she still struggles with who she is.
One day she was crying and saying, putting her hand up to divide her face, "Half of me is white and half of me is Hispanic. I don't know who I am."
I felt sorry for her, because I don't know what that feels like. All we can do is assure her of our love.
It does render a good example of why some people are opposed to bi-racial marriages. It may not effect the parents as much as it does the children. And in some instances, it effects neither parent nor child.
But for this child, it is a traumatic issue for her. Something she lives with every day of her life.
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