Bullies and bullying- how close to home is it?

[Esaias]

Originally Posted by Sasha

I'm not sure how someone can assume that, especially since most of these kids don't have both parents in the home and the other who is either gone all the time or on welfare and drugs. And many kids, especially those in the larger urban areas, hope to get home safely on a daily basis. At least my kids don't have to worry about someone shooting them when on their way home.

Their school has an armed cop, however.

It's not just 'overnurturing', it's a combination of things. 'Different strokes for different folks' is the devil's motto, as far as I can tell. He offers one path to destruction to one group, and another path to another, depending on what their situation is.

But a lot of the 'soft' kids i know about, have horrible home lives. I mean parents who aren't there, who basically despise their own children and let them know it, etc. There's just something missing in the psyche of a lot of youth today. I know many people I grew up with who had unbelievably horrible home lives, who were anything BUT 'nurtured', who did not turn out as 'helpless' as I see a lot of kids today.

In fact that's what it is - learned helplessness. I guess. I see so many kids who seem barely able to tie their shoelaces without someone holding their hand.

Some kids get too much 'affirmation' so that can't deal with 'rejection' or opposition. Other kids get no affirmation to the point they crave it so bad they can't get along without it.

I mean, it's like young people today are just fragile or something.

Of course, I know for a fact my dad felt pretty much the same way about my generation. And I know my grandpa probably felt the same way about my parents' generation, lol.