Question About Submission

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Originally Posted by Praxeas

The whole "Obey your husbands" fits perfectly into the control freak/manipulator personality.

Maybe the question should not be, should she obey but rather, should he order her to do something against her conscious?

Ive already sided with the "dont get advice from AFF" group...

that being said here is my take on matters of marriage as it relates to this subject.


When you get married, the first thing everyone needs to know is that humans change over time. None of us are the same people we were just a few short years earlier. Life, experience, hurt and joy all have an impact.

A married couple SHOULD AT ALL TIMES be considering their marriage as they grow and change, insuring that they change TOGETHER. If at any point the two begin to grow in different directions, there needs to be serious open, honest communication.

marriages go sideways because married people are not vigilent about growing together.

When two people are moving at different speeds in that process, the one moving fastest is in my opinion responsible to NOT outrun the other.

This is submission to the marriage. NOT a woman submitted to the man.

I am against control and manipulation regardless of who is doing it. However one does not get to "see the light" in a marriage that is long standing and has been Christ centered for its entire existance.

If one finds some light, then they need to share that light in the love of God and not out run the one they are married to. period.

Anyone who has been married for any serious amount of time (successfully) knows that while personal opinions are important, they are not more important than the relationship they established before God when they got married.