Not Just A Mom

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

Yes, it is always a tug-of-war with a career versus motherhood... I think every woman who has ever done it would agree with that.

Unfortunately, many women find they have no choice but to work, and juggle the two. It makes for a LOT of stress in a woman's heart, I think. Well, I know it did for me.

I read an article, years ago, stating (citing a study) that women live longer if they don't have to work outside the home as long as men do, i.e., until retirement.

[KeptByTheWord]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I read an article, years ago, stating (citing a study) that women live longer if they don't have to work outside the home as long as men do, i.e., until retirement.

I believe that!

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I read an article, years ago, stating (citing a study) that women live longer if they don't have to work outside the home as long as men do, i.e., until retirement.

I wonder if men who have wives at home live longer as well?

[ILG]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

But I think it is relevant to our discussion to understand that the original design after the fall in the garden with the curse given to Adam and Eve, explains why I, as a woman, feel most fulfilled when I am home and nurturing, caring, teaching, and loving my family and husband.

My husband was out of work for a few months this past year, and it was a very frustrating time for him, because his self worth comes from working, and providing for his family. It was a huge relief for him to go back to work, and begin to provide for our family again.

I just think, personally, that being home, and working out of my home, provides the best environment for my children to thrive, and for my husband to be content. We have tried both scenarios, with me working out of the home, and working at home, and definitely, everyone is much happier when I am home running the household.

Other perspectives are welcome of course!

For me and my family, we have been very content with traditional roles. So, I don't know if people who are not traditional are really happy that way or not.

[KeptByTheWord]

Some more palindromy...

Aha! Eve is the mom of us all... yay ma'am!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

Some more palindromy...

Aha! Eve is the mom of us all... yay ma'am!

LOL! Put that Espresso down - or have you been drinking coffee since NOON?

[KeptByTheWord]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

LOL! Put that Espresso down - or have you been drinking coffee since NOON?

aha! hah hah! lol!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord

aha! hah hah! lol!

Note: this is not Bratti's condescending coffee cup.

[KeptByTheWord]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Note: this is not Bratti's condescending coffee cup.

I'm drinking tea, not coffee.... green tea that is supposed to be GOOD for you ... One can only hope!

[Sasha]

My mom and I never got along most of our lives. She was divorced from my dad, who never wanted anything to do with my brother and I, when we were very young, and she had to work to make ends meet. This meant she left us with people who abused us, mainly me, and she was someone who never believed children because they always lied. I never had protection from my abusers, and my mom was abusive as well. I grew up hateful and bitter and it carried into my young adulthood. My mom thought I would end up in prison, and that's no exaggeration.

I didn't raise my children the way I was raised. I made sure I hugged them, told them I loved them, and protected them at all costs. I was even told by a pastor once that I was overprotective and he saw that in me from the first time he met me. I have always been there for my children. They are my life.

Oddly enough, my mom has changed. Her grandchildren mean the world to her. She always let them get away with everything. She thinks they walk on water and even admitted to me that I did well in raising them, even though at first she thought I should beat them for every little thing. They have never seen her as I saw her growing up. They are adults now and I tell them stories of my life with her and it shocks them that she was ever that way.

Being a single mother most of my childrens lives, I had to work. But even then, I was very involved with my children, attending ball games and being involved in scouts and camping. Even when going to school full time and working as they got older, I knew what they were doing. Sneaking around was something they just didn't do. I would leave work to check on them and NEVER found them doing something they weren't to be doing. They knew I had to trust them.

My mom cursed me with having children just half as bad as I was. My kids didn't even come close. Thank God!