As far as I'm concerned, if a woman is under the spiritual authority of her elder (a male) and her husband (also male), she should be able to minister using whatever gift the good Lord gave her. And if this is wrong... so be it. We have to take a stand were we think something is humane and just. I've also noticed that the language of the Bible can often lend itself to broader interpretations than what was often held in the first two to three centuries of Christianity.
As we grow in the knowledge of various language and customs... our faith does evolve to some degree. I believe this is good, holy, and healthy. Think about it... there was a time when those born with serious deformities or psychological problems were condemned as being demon possessed. We've evolved in this area. Also, we've broadened our understanding of submission and modesty, as a result we don't force women to wear bonnets and scarves over their heads in gatherings. We have come to understand the principles of the Scriptures, the spirit of the Word, not the letter of the law.
The primary principles should be loving God with all our being... and demonstrating that love by loving others as ourselves. I'd rather error on the side of love and mutual respect than error on the side of legalistic hardness. I don't believe anyone will go to Hell for being too loving, too patient, or too understanding. So error on the side of love. Lean on your mercy in all things. You'll never regret the position you've taken if you do this.
I also believe in Apostolic Authority. In areas wherein the Scriptures are silent or unclear, we can always exercise this authority:
Matthew 16:19
I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.”
Matthew 18:18
“Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
John 20:23
Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained.