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Originally Posted by good samaritan
I am a fairly new at pastoring and in the short 1 and half years I have pastored I have recognized the stress on the pastors home. The church often times doesn't confront the pastor directly with issues; they often first go to his wife with problems. My wife's phone rings as much if not more than mine with church issues. Often the pastors wife is expected to be like and elder to the ladies in the church. I know that biblically there is nothing said of a pastors wife, but in today's church culture there is much respnsibility placed on her whether she likes it or not.
This young pastor must work doubly hard to protect his new wife from the tensions placed on a pastors family. I think that he overlooked logic in doing this, but if God is in it they will be fine. I personally think that unmarried people who are seeking to be married should wait for a pastorate until they have gotten their personal lives straight because it isn't ussually good for the church or their family introducing someone new into the picture.
This my opinion, but God sometimes defies logic and I hope this is a God thing.
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It depends on the pastor in my experience ,some pastors wives have there fingers in everything and the pastor discusses everything with her , and it gets yacked about at the supper table with the kids listening, which i think is very wrong imo, my current pastor ? just the opposite she has her activities in the church, but anything to do with advice goes to her husband and she is blissfully unaware of anything that is said, which i like very much !!
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