Hang In or Let Go? Do Both!! :)

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

I guess I should have said it better...Forget the hurts of the past and see the scars where the healing has happened!

Blessings, Rhoni

Again I have to disagree. I can be such a disagreeable person, eh? LOL!

I don't believe that we need to forget the hurts of the past. I believe there is great value in looking back and reviewing those hurts and finding truth, understanding, and wisdom as a result of doing so.

My husband and I went to see a movie a few weeks back. It was excellent and towards the end there was a statement made by one actor to another that caused me to dissolve in tears. He was expressing exactly the way I have felt at times in the past regarding my own personal life. His words opened up a flood of emotion and I was taken back several years to some very difficult situations and the hurt that it created for me personally.

That revealed to me that still .... after almost 10 years I still have sensitive spots left. I'm not sure I ever want that sensitivity to go away because it's proof to me of the love and relationship I had with some people and that even though that was affected by decisions and actions on both parts I still care. And I believe they do too.

Thing is, we can't allow those things to hinder our progress in God. We have to keep moving ahead. That's what Paul meant I believe by forgetting that which was behind and moving forward. That's why it's so important to "deal" with things and resolve things in our own mind. But to forget? I see no need.

Memory is a precious and wonderful thing.

[Barb]

Originally Posted by Felicity

Again I have to disagree. I can be such a disagreeable person, eh? LOL!

I don't believe that we need to forget the hurts of the past. I believe there is great value in looking back and reviewing those hurts and finding truth, understanding, and wisdom as a result of doing so.

My husband and I went to see a movie a few weeks back. It was excellent and towards the end there was a statement made by one actor to another that caused me to dissolve in tears. He was expressing exactly the way I have felt at times in the past regarding my own personal life. His words opened up a flood of emotion and I was taken back several years to some very difficult situations and the hurt that it created for me personally.

That revealed to me that still .... after almost 10 years I still have sensitive spots left. I'm not sure I ever want that sensitivity to go away because it's proof to me of the love and relationship I had with some people and that even though that was affected by decisions and actions on both parts I still care. And I believe they do too.

Thing is, we can't allow those things to hinder our progress in God. We have to keep moving ahead. That's what Paul meant I believe by forgetting that which was behind and moving forward. That's why it's so important to "deal" with things and resolve things in our own mind. But to forget? I see no need.

Memory is a precious and wonderful thing.

Good post...again this is a big help to me, sis...

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by Barb

Good post...again this is a big help to me, sis...

I'm a little surprised more people haven't chimed in here since this is something that we ALL can relate to for sure.

[BrotherEastman]

Felicity, I think I will use this for Sunday, if you don't mind! Great post sis!

[Rhoni]

Through the years our memories get distorted. I thank God that He rewrites our past so that we can use the hurts and disillusionment to make us into useful vessels in our todays.

Blessings, Rhoni

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Felicity

Again I have to disagree. I can be such a disagreeable person, eh? LOL!

I don't believe that we need to forget the hurts of the past. I believe there is great value in looking back and reviewing those hurts and finding truth, understanding, and wisdom as a result of doing so.

My husband and I went to see a movie a few weeks back. It was excellent and towards the end there was a statement made by one actor to another that caused me to dissolve in tears. He was expressing exactly the way I have felt at times in the past regarding my own personal life. His words opened up a flood of emotion and I was taken back several years to some very difficult situations and the hurt that it created for me personally.

That revealed to me that still .... after almost 10 years I still have sensitive spots left. I'm not sure I ever want that sensitivity to go away because it's proof to me of the love and relationship I had with some people and that even though that was affected by decisions and actions on both parts I still care. And I believe they do too.

Thing is, we can't allow those things to hinder our progress in God. We have to keep moving ahead. That's what Paul meant I believe by forgetting that which was behind and moving forward. That's why it's so important to "deal" with things and resolve things in our own mind. But to forget? I see no need.

Memory is a precious and wonderful thing.

I think that Paul's message to us was as literal as stated...we must forget those things which are behind and press forward.... Just because something illicits feelings in us does not make it a 'truth'.

I do agree that we need to deal with issues that keep us weighted down. Healing can only occur if we open the wound and let the sweet balm of Gilead cleanse out the hurt, the anger, the resentment, the bitterness, and the despair.

Once the issue is dealt with then we can truly leave it in the past. For some of us it takes longer than others. Many times we hold on to things we say that we give to God. We nurse our wounds and keep them fresh. It is when we are able to truly allow God the control...after all...most things are about control, that we can truly "forget".

It is very difficult for some to admit that a counselor might know some things! That's all right...One of the names/titles of Jesus Christ is...The Wonderful Counselor. He knows just where the hurt is and opens it up when we least expect it so that we can't deny and hide it any longer. He opens it up so healing can occur.


Blessings, Rhoni

[Barb]

Originally Posted by Felicity

I'm a little surprised more people haven't chimed in here since this is something that we ALL can relate to for sure.

Nevertheless, it has come at just the right time in my life, sis...I am most appreciative to the Lord who knows what things we have need of, and to you for being a vessel.

[rgcraig]

Felicity, did you write this to speak to your ladies?

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Felicity, did you write this to speak to your ladies?

No, I didn't.

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

I think that Paul's message to us was as literal as stated...we must forget those things which are behind and press forward.

Even Paul drew on and referred to things that happened in his past in his epistles and testimony.

I'm sure as time goes on and I get older that I will draw time and time again on past experiences .... pleasant or unpleasant .... in order to minister to others. I also believe that having dealt with with those things in the right way ... and then with the passage of time bringing perspective and revelation and inspiration in regard to those experiences will be even more impacting, instructive, helpful and beneficial.

I've read that a person should allow a space of a number of years before sharing past experiences with an audience (like writing a book for example) because when they are fresh and new you simply don't have the depth of understanding or perception that you really need to be able to share what happened in an objective or at least more objective and realistic way. I agree with this.